I'd like you all to meet Jim

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by jenniferjean, Aug 16, 2019.

  1. jenniferjean

    jenniferjean Registered User

    Apr 2, 2016
    399
    Female
    Basingstoke, Hampshire
    My husband has Alzheimers. His name is not Jim. He is usually doing one of three things. He sits quietly with his eyes closed. Or he paces about from one room to another. Or he talks non stop, talking nonsense.

    His conversation goes something like this :-
    "Put your socks on Jim".
    "Pull your socks up Jim".
    "What's in here Jim" - opening a drawer in the coffee table.
    Then taking everything out of the drawer he says.
    "Here's the nail set Jim".
    "Here's the chinese takeaway Jim" - then he reads through some of the dishes.
    "Not today Jim"
    "Put it all back Jim"
    Then he'll pace from room to room, still talking to Jim.
    Then it's back to the drawer in the coffee table and everything comes out again.

    It could sound funny if it wasn't all the time, day after day after day.

    What I want to know is who the hell is Jim.
     
  2. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Registered User

    Apr 1, 2016
    2,908
    Nottinghamshire
    How wearing @jenniferjean.

    I know you’re not really looking for an answer but my first thought was Captain James T Kirk...”It’s life Jim - but not as we know it!”...pretty much sums up living with dementia!
     
  3. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    12,454
    Female
    England
    #3 jaymor, Aug 16, 2019
    Last edited: Aug 16, 2019
    When my husband was in his nursing home the man across the corridor from him was bed bound and kept up a conversation with himself all day. He was himself and the reply came from him but in a different voice. His conversation was always about shooting himself. So he would say in his normal voice ‘don’t shoot me’ then the reply came back ‘I’ll shoot you if I want to’. Some days he was brave and say ‘ go on shoot me if you dare’ and so it went on all day every day. There were days when I longed to hear the bang.

    This was in the last three months of my husband’s life where he slept all day so it never affected him but I could imagine the three-way conversation that would have gone on had he been aware.
     
  4. PalSal

    PalSal Registered User

    Perhaps like children sometimes do , he has created an imaginary friend? Anythings possible.
     
  5. Lawson58

    Lawson58 Registered User

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    could it be Jim out of Treasure Island? That would make your husband Long John Silver!
     
  6. dancer12

    dancer12 Registered User

    Jan 9, 2017
    451
    Mississauga
    Hi jenniferjean:

    My husband does the exact same. My husband hasn't given his Jim a name, but he comes out as someone else to blame not him, he did it not me. I believe it's the side that does things incorrectly. Blame him not me, I didn't do it he did. He still knows what's wrong & what's right and he doesn't want you to get angry at him. My husband does it particularly when he pees on the floor, BLAME HIM NOT ME. He still knows I have to clean it up and that doesn't make me happy. It's difficult but true. Take Care.
     
  7. jenniferjean

    jenniferjean Registered User

    Apr 2, 2016
    399
    Female
    Basingstoke, Hampshire
    That's true @Bunpoots that line could almost have been written about dementia.
     
  8. jenniferjean

    jenniferjean Registered User

    Apr 2, 2016
    399
    Female
    Basingstoke, Hampshire
    No, he is definitely talking to himself.
     
  9. PalSal

    PalSal Registered User

    I realize he is talking to himself but perhaps he has created an alter ego. Who knows.
     

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