hello, im new and was given the link to this site by another lovely carer.
i could do with your veiws on my situation because im punishing myself on a decision me and my husband have come to.
im 32 and i am married with 2 children and another 1 on the way. we live wih my husbands grandmother who is 84, she suffers with alzheimers and has done for what I KNOW OF for 2 years. we moved in with her 2 years ago to look after her because she was getting worse with her memory. at this point we didnt no she had alzhimers. it was kept from us till a week before we moved in where we were finaly informed that gran had alzheimers, a you can guess i wasnt impressed but id had a feeling she was anyway as my own gran sufferd with alzhimers at the time. at the time when we moved in we were promised breaks from gran and family would come and take her out for the day ect. im still waiting for this t happen 2 years down the line.
anyway all came to ahead sunday night and iv asked for her to be taken into a home now as im sick of being treated like a mug. the house we live in is freezing and is in a state and needs repairs doing. i never get any help from my husbands family, they never give me a break and they dont have any patience with her at all. its like its an out of sight out of mine kind of thing. YET i have no control with social sevices, finances, doctors and hosp appointments ect ect. so basicaly im the live in carer. i love gran terribly and its ripping me apart saying shes got to go inot a home now. i cant cope. my husband is fantastic and helps lots but i hav 2 children also to think aboutand now 1 on the way.
just woundering what you all think of my situation and possibly what you would do in my shoes. i am full of guilt and wounder if im being to harsh, gran goes to daycare 4 days a week, 10.30 till 3.30. this is my only time away from her. which may sound alot to some but i dont get any resbite. i actualy used my wedding money to pay to go away over xmas just to butlins in skegness just so me and my family could hav a break just for once.
thank you for reading if you have managed to read this far
xxxxx
i could do with your veiws on my situation because im punishing myself on a decision me and my husband have come to.
im 32 and i am married with 2 children and another 1 on the way. we live wih my husbands grandmother who is 84, she suffers with alzheimers and has done for what I KNOW OF for 2 years. we moved in with her 2 years ago to look after her because she was getting worse with her memory. at this point we didnt no she had alzhimers. it was kept from us till a week before we moved in where we were finaly informed that gran had alzheimers, a you can guess i wasnt impressed but id had a feeling she was anyway as my own gran sufferd with alzhimers at the time. at the time when we moved in we were promised breaks from gran and family would come and take her out for the day ect. im still waiting for this t happen 2 years down the line.
anyway all came to ahead sunday night and iv asked for her to be taken into a home now as im sick of being treated like a mug. the house we live in is freezing and is in a state and needs repairs doing. i never get any help from my husbands family, they never give me a break and they dont have any patience with her at all. its like its an out of sight out of mine kind of thing. YET i have no control with social sevices, finances, doctors and hosp appointments ect ect. so basicaly im the live in carer. i love gran terribly and its ripping me apart saying shes got to go inot a home now. i cant cope. my husband is fantastic and helps lots but i hav 2 children also to think aboutand now 1 on the way.
just woundering what you all think of my situation and possibly what you would do in my shoes. i am full of guilt and wounder if im being to harsh, gran goes to daycare 4 days a week, 10.30 till 3.30. this is my only time away from her. which may sound alot to some but i dont get any resbite. i actualy used my wedding money to pay to go away over xmas just to butlins in skegness just so me and my family could hav a break just for once.
thank you for reading if you have managed to read this far
xxxxx