I have read many threads over the time I have been on this site and I seriously wonder if we have got something basically wrong. A person with any sort of AD etc has a brain disease which usually means that making decisions for themselves is either impossible or based on very screwed up illogical thinking. Dependant on how far advanced the disease is. A lot of decisions thay make themselves are against their own welfare needs, (arguably self harm?) so why oh why are we asking people who are incapable of making logical decisions to make them? The very nature of these diseases is that they CANT make logical choices. Bare in mind here I was a qualified nurse and know about 'choice' for patients etc but its like asking a child if they want liver (good for them) or chocolate (not so good) for tea. Yes usually they are going to choose chocolate. I know this is an ethical minefield but I do welcome input.