I don't know which way to turn. My day is made up of OH constantly asking where are we going today? If I say nowhere I am accused of never wanting to do any thing. So I say - -OK - let's go for a coffee at the local shopping centre at morning tea-time. It is then a two minute countdown telling me how long 'til we go? Who is going with us? Just you and me? No-one else? Will anyone else be there? Do we have to pick anyone else up? Then it starts again with only slight variations to the questions. He even follows me to the toilet to keep asking. He argues about what time it is (he is starting to find time telling difficult). We finally get to go at the time I said we would go, and he gets fidgety if his coffee and/or muffin isn't delivered to the table within 2 minutes. He then bolts them down before I have even started and wants to go home again. We get home in time for me do to a short bout of housework before he starts asking about lunch. After lunch my mind is on overdrive and all I want to do is shut my eyes for 5 minutes, but he starts on about tea and we start the whole process again. In the meantime he checks his keys about 20 times, the front and back doors, makes sure the car is still outside, goodness knows what he does on his umpteen visits to the bedroom, and generally wanders around the house. The spa pool needs emptying and I have lost count of the times I have opened the tap and he has closed it. He has lost the ability now to make a cuppa, something I was encouraging as it was one of the few things left that he could accomplish. He asks if I want tea or coffee (I have never drunk coffee) - then asks what I have in it. I answer with "just the teabag and water" and get the answer "OK". What arrives is usually however, a cup with a teabag, coffee, sugar and maybe, milk. I have two options - sneakily get up and make my own and get a tongue-lashing, or let it get cold to which I also get a tongue-lashing about getting him to make me a cuppa and then letting it cold - damned if I do and damned if I don't!! Teatime is a headache - much the same scenario as morning or afternoon teatimes. I don't know what the sudden desire for eating out is? Is my cooking that bad.
I just want a quiet life really
I don't know how much longer I can sustain a sane approach to life. Any suggestions to OH as to "can you write down, or can I write down for you, what we have been discussing" is only an invitation for a barrage of verbal abuse regarding the fact that he hasn't even so much as mentioned it before.
I guess it's such is life with AD, and it only what I have to expect. I certainly didn't think that that was how being 67 was going to be with the love of my life
I just want a quiet life really
I don't know how much longer I can sustain a sane approach to life. Any suggestions to OH as to "can you write down, or can I write down for you, what we have been discussing" is only an invitation for a barrage of verbal abuse regarding the fact that he hasn't even so much as mentioned it before.
I guess it's such is life with AD, and it only what I have to expect. I certainly didn't think that that was how being 67 was going to be with the love of my life