@Dianej How much longer can you go on like this? Have you had a Carer’s Assessment? You need more help.
I went for years allowing people to stay at mum’s on holiday because I didn’t want to step on toes, but eventually I had no choice but to tell people straight: sorry, you can’t stay there anymore. Anything that disrupts her/his daily routine causes terrible anxiety and confusion for her/him. Or in your case long visits. It’s not fair on you or him.
I wish I had a pound for every time I heard, “she seems fine, from what you were saying I’d expected her to be much worse…” Arghh ?
I went for years allowing people to stay at mum’s on holiday because I didn’t want to step on toes, but eventually I had no choice but to tell people straight: sorry, you can’t stay there anymore. Anything that disrupts her/his daily routine causes terrible anxiety and confusion for her/him. Or in your case long visits. It’s not fair on you or him.
I wish I had a pound for every time I heard, “she seems fine, from what you were saying I’d expected her to be much worse…” Arghh ?