My Mum was diagnosed with vascular dementia 10 years ago - she is now 90 years old. She has been in care home for the past four years and has slowly, oh so slowly declined. She is now at the end of the path - something that after all this time doesn't seem possible. However I had no idea that it would be such a battle. She hasn't eaten in weeks, is having severe difficulty swallowing and hasn't drunk more than a few sips for the past few days. She hasn't been out of bed for weeks and has a lesion on her foot grade 3 so is on morphine for the pain. Also liquid paracetamol and ibuprofen are squirted into her mouth with a syringe though most of it seems to dribble out again. She can't talk and is literally fighting with her arms and body. She is very restless and keeps jerking and moving almost spastically - sorry if that isn't politically correct but I don't know how else to describe it. Is this from her brain, is she in pain or is this part of the dying process? The nursing and caring staff in the home are very good but no one seems to be saying very much. To me it feels like she is literally fighting death - her brain has given up on her and so her animal instinct to survive has kicked in??? But I might be barking up the wrong tree. I suppose it doesn't matter only that I would really like her to have a peaceful death but this awful disease seems to have robbed her of this last dignity too. Just wondered if anyone else had experienced anything similar. I know the end is imminent but I never imagined it would be this hard. Sorry for ranting!