I think I've had enough of my role as a carer

[Kazza72]

Daily, I come home to a smell that would make a sewer rat pass put, no matter how much I clean there is always a fresher stronger smell of poop by the next day. Today I came home to a pile of 'nutty logs' left on the toilet cistern. I just broke down in tears, I can't live like this anymore, it's just not fair, I work all day only up have to face the horrors at home every day. Homelessness is a less stressful option from where I'm standing. Trying to put name on tenancy but this is proving to be slow. Almost a month since I sent in the change of circumstance form for the tenancy and not heard a thing, I give up...it's just not worth the stress


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[Grannie G]

It`s like emotional blackmail for you. You should not be forced to endure this, its too much.

 

[daisydi]

Daily, I come home to a smell that would make a sewer rat pass put, notated how much I clean there is always a fresher stronger smell of poop by the next day. Today I came home to a pile of 'nutty logs' left on the toilet cistern. I just broke down in tears, I can't live like this anymore, it's just not fair, I work all day only up have to face the horrors at home every day. Homelessness is a less stressful option from where I'm standing. Trying to put name on tenancy but this is proving to be slow. Almost a month since I sent in the change of circumstance form for the tenancy and not heard a thing, I give up...it's just not worth the stress


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Could you not get your mum into respite for a week or two to give you a break? Sorry if you have already tried but respite is not permanent so it shouldn't affect your tenancy.

 

[flossielime]

Bloody nightmare situation. i really dont know what you can do other then maybe demand respite (in this area there is a 4 week entitlement) and hope and chase up the council until you get confirmation through.

 

[dottyd]

Saw mum in care home. There was dried smeared faeces on the wall near her bathroom.

I couldn't live with this at home.

Kazz the time has come!

 

[Adcat]

Go and see your GP.

 

[Lindy50]

Hi Kazza

I wouldn't think anyone could live as you are on a daily basis, and hold down a job as well. I think from other posts that maybe you have some care help with your mum's meals, but I'm not sure what other help you have?

It sounds to me as if your mum needs a reassessment of her needs.....and that this may result in an application for residential care, or at least more help with her personal care. If I remember rightly, you need to have the flat tenancy assigned to you....but I'd contact your mum's GP and / or social services pretty quickly in any case.

Look after yourself as well as your mum, Kazza

Hope you get something sorted soon.

Lindy xx