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I think I've had enough of my role as a carer

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Kazza72, Apr 1, 2015.

  1. Kazza72

    Kazza72 Registered User

    Feb 10, 2015
    202
    West London
    #1 Kazza72, Apr 1, 2015
    Last edited: Apr 2, 2015
    Daily, I come home to a smell that would make a sewer rat pass put, no matter how much I clean there is always a fresher stronger smell of poop by the next day. Today I came home to a pile of 'nutty logs' left on the toilet cistern. I just broke down in tears, I can't live like this anymore, it's just not fair, I work all day only up have to face the horrors at home every day. Homelessness is a less stressful option from where I'm standing. Trying to put name on tenancy but this is proving to be slow. Almost a month since I sent in the change of circumstance form for the tenancy and not heard a thing, I give up...it's just not worth the stress


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  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,884
    Kent
    It`s like emotional blackmail for you. You should not be forced to endure this, its too much.
     
  3. daisydi

    daisydi Registered User

    Feb 25, 2015
    255
    Norfolk
    Could you not get your mum into respite for a week or two to give you a break? Sorry if you have already tried but respite is not permanent so it shouldn't affect your tenancy.
     
  4. flossielime

    flossielime Registered User

    May 8, 2014
    201
    Bloody nightmare situation. i really dont know what you can do other then maybe demand respite (in this area there is a 4 week entitlement) and hope and chase up the council until you get confirmation through.
     
  5. dottyd

    dottyd Registered User

    Jan 22, 2011
    1,064
    n.e.
    Saw mum in care home. There was dried smeared faeces on the wall near her bathroom.

    I couldn't live with this at home.

    Kazz the time has come!
     
  6. Adcat

    Adcat Registered User

    Jun 15, 2014
    289
    London
    Go and see your GP.
     
  7. Lindy50

    Lindy50 Registered User

    Dec 11, 2013
    5,239
    Cotswolds
    Hi Kazza :)

    I wouldn't think anyone could live as you are on a daily basis, and hold down a job as well. I think from other posts that maybe you have some care help with your mum's meals, but I'm not sure what other help you have?

    It sounds to me as if your mum needs a reassessment of her needs.....and that this may result in an application for residential care, or at least more help with her personal care. If I remember rightly, you need to have the flat tenancy assigned to you....but I'd contact your mum's GP and / or social services pretty quickly in any case.

    Look after yourself as well as your mum, Kazza :)

    Hope you get something sorted soon.

    Lindy xx
     

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