Just a few thoughts about recent things happening:
- Council are saying that dad now has too much in savings to qualify for a partial contribution, I'm not certain on the rules here, but he has less than £20,000 in all his accounts, and most importantly we have not been billed for any care. I explained this, but they didn't seem to care, but this figure is going to be in the thousands. We are still awaiting to hear from Occupational Health as we really want to sort out a wash room and other things to make the house safer from dad. We got a letter back in December, saying they will arrange an appointment, but again... nothing so far.
- We are now also trying to sort out falls pads, falls alarm, which again are going to cost... and will likely end up coming out of my bank account. They also seem to be trying to get us to get a new fire alarm and carbon monoxide detector. This seems really pointless as ours work fine, and dad cant walk to to the kitchen unaided anymore and I'm confident he wont accidently put the house on fire.
- I am really trying to save up money so I can start a proper life with my partner, but I am unable and feel guilted that I need to be spending money on dad's care despite him having money himself and nobody really seems to understand my living/life situation no matter how much I explain it. I'm just son who lives with dad.
- Dad has woken up 3 times at over the last week in the middle of the night and tried to get himself out of bed, once resulting in him being mostly on the floor (complicated). I work full time and I really cant be dealing with being woken up and having to reassure dad that it is night time and getting him back to sleep (this takes around half an hour). Dad gets himself back to sleep... I struggle to.
- We are still awaiting on a review of dad's dementia medication as it is not working, I have again failed to get any contact from the memory clinic despite attempting.
Anyway, rant over. Just can't deal with it all