I am lucky enough my dad is more than happy nowadays to wear the pads and seems to be cool with the pull ups instead of conventional underwear. We are always using the washing machine, but annoyingly I hardly get a chance to wash my own clothes (get time once a week right now to do a load). It's difficult keeping up with my own personal needs, as I just don't see it as a priority. I shower at my girlfriends flat twice or three times a week and just flannel wash at home. Dad is sleeping more and more. I reckon he is now sleeping 10 to 13 hours a day. Is the increase in sleep normal for people who may have dementia? Or just old age? About a year ago dad slept 6-8 hours a day.