I am lucky enough my dad is more than happy nowadays to wear the pads and seems to be cool with the pull ups instead of conventional underwear.I really feel for you @AztecCamera87
My dad’s incontinence - and denial of it - drove me to distraction! He had pads, and then pull-ups but getting him to wear them was a nightmare. Well why would he when he wasn’t incontinent . He preferred to go commando!! The smell in the house was horrendous no matter what I tried to clean up the mess with.
This was one of the reasons why my dad needed to go into a carehome.
We are always using the washing machine, but annoyingly I hardly get a chance to wash my own clothes (get time once a week right now to do a load). It's difficult keeping up with my own personal needs, as I just don't see it as a priority. I shower at my girlfriends flat twice or three times a week and just flannel wash at home.
Dad is sleeping more and more. I reckon he is now sleeping 10 to 13 hours a day. Is the increase in sleep normal for people who may have dementia? Or just old age? About a year ago dad slept 6-8 hours a day.