I and my husband are living with my Mum who has dementia. I have read the thing about trying to be kind not confrontational. I hate confronting things anyway, but I am finding it very very hard to do the 'distract' part of the coping mechanisms. When she's disagreeing, and contradictory or insisting that something isn't (or is) so, I sometimes find it so upsetting and overwhelming that I simply cannot THINK straight, and can't come up with anything to distract her with. I won't say anymore - so much of this is so upsetting that I could write a whole book. Like: Keys Pills Doctors Chickens Fridge Washing Coffee mornings - nightmare time! Shopping Snow Bins Books The House Bank My health Loads and loads more..... Yours ScarletPimple!