I am a social worker and have experience of advising families in my position. My mum was diagnosed with alzheimers 3.5 years ago. Things became more difficult earlier this year when she was struggling to prepare meals for herself. I initially took over but now with the aid of a direct payment have carers 4 afternoons per week to cook her a meal and provide company. Mum was initially ok with this but just recently is complaining that she can cook for herself and has obviously forgotten the panic and stress she got into when she was cooking for herself, she also had a small fire from the cooker as she put some chops under the grill instead on in the oven and they caught alight. Mum is now saying she wants to cook for herself otherwise she will lose the skill. I don't feel she is capable but I feel bad that I am almost denying her the option. I have suggested to the carers that they involve her as much as possible. Any ideas?