Hi all My mother’s dementia is getting worse by the day and I’m finding it extremely difficult to cope. She lives with us and every day is filled with confrontation, anger and accusations, it’s never ending. She is now convinced I’ve stolen all her money which of course I haven’t. I am literally spending my life hiding in my bedroom to avoid confrontation, I can’t engage with her in any way because she sees any communication from me as an invitation to go off on a rant. When she speaks with my husband or adult children she says terrible things about me, even the doctor told her she had to stop saying such disgusting things about me. He’s known me for 35 years and knows I’m not capable of saying or doing the things she’s accusing me of. I know I should ignore it and remember it’s the disease talking but that’s easier said than done when it’s so relentless and you do wonder if people think there’s an element of truth to what she’s saying. I think it would be better for my mother to live in a care home because I honestly feel like I can’t cope with her any longer but she’s making me feel so guilty. I have no quality of life and the strain on my family is enormous! She knows there is something wrong because in her lucid moments she pleads with me not to put her in a care home which makes me feel incredibly guilty. Physically she is fitter and more active than I am, which means I’m not physically capable of stopping her from leaving the house when she wants too if I can’t distract her, which is usually the case. I don’t think it’s safe for her to be going off on her own but I am powerless to stop her! Has anyone else been in a similar situation and if so what did you do? My father was sectioned under the mental health act because he was a danger to himself and others one of the reasons being he would go out on his own and disappear for hours or forget how to get home.