Hi all, I haven't been on in a few days because things have been just upside down here. My Dad made out his new wills, power of attorney and advanced directive and then very slickly had me sign tihe poa without reading it first. If you learn nothing else from me, learn this ! Don't ever sign anything without reading it !! I know better but being trusting, I just assumed it was as we had discussed. When I finally had time to read it I discovered that he had made my step sister who lives in another state "joint" attorney-in-fact with me. That means she would have to sign everything from financial to medical with me. Since it is my mother that has AD, my step sister would have to sign off on every decision made for her. After many battles and hurt feelings, my step Dad says he will change it back. We shall see ! Besides that, my Mom refuses to go back to the day care program I found for her and my step Dad will do nothing to get her there. More than once this last week I said to myself "I QUIT" Let one of the other siblings do this, I'm done. Of course I wouldn't do that but I am really worn out and am feeling very used and taken advantage of right now. My FIL has terminal lung cancer too which has been stressful. So we are planning a long weekend to help after his next chemo. That is a 10 hour drive north. Ok, I have poured out my frustrations, thanks to all who listen!! I know you have all been there in one way or another and it really helps to vent. Debbie ps To all that I told I was going to try an anti-anxiety drug to help my Mom sleep through the night when my Dad was in the hospital overnight last week........it didn't work but she wassssss mmmmeeeeellllloooowwww. I unscrewed all the light bulbs in the guest room overhead so she couldn't turn the light on in the middle of the night and I hung a sign on the door saying," Debbie is sleeping" so she would remember I was there. Worked pretty well.