Bel, love, Bob is still your hubby.
OK, he doesn't behave like he used to, but that is not Bob, it's his illness.
I know it's hard, because we seem to be doing all the loving and caring and getting very little in return. But deep inside he still loves you. I'm sure like me with John, you get moments when the old Bob appears.
You have to concentrate on these moments and treasure them. Then when you have a bad day, remind yourself of that good moment. You've talked before about when you've been away together, or out for a meal, and it was like old times. Hang on to that.
Yes, at times he is like your child, and at those times you have to be both wife and mother to him. Just give him a cuddle, and enjoy being close.
It's hard, I know. I have the same sense of loss, and so do many others on TP. But we carry on, because whether he's our husband or our child today, we love him.
You're doing so wel, bel. You can do it, because we're all behind you.
Love and hugs,