Hi, I have been a lurker on this board for a few weeks now. Could someone give me some advice. My mum has been diagnosed with dementia. The problem is my Dad waits on her hand and foot and I am convinced she plays it to the hilt. He, however, explodes every so often due to the fact that he allows her to run rings round him. She attends a Club 2 days a week and could go for 3 or more day per week but my Dad says it is so much bother to get her to go for 2 days it's not worth it. The night before she's due to go she constantly says she doesn't want to go (sometimes he even tells her she doesn't have to go). When he tries to explain to her that she has to go to the Club as it's for his good she is completely unconcerned about him and only seems to think of herself constantly. She keeps him up most of the night (but he still allows her to sleep during the day as she says her eyes are sore). I'm sorry to say but she has turned into a moaning faced woman. She seems to moan about anything and everything. If you look at her sideways or say the wrong thing your life is not worth living. Is this all part of this horrible disease or could there be a bit of play acting here. What I'm looking for is some way to tell her she has dementia and to give everyone a rest she has to go to the Club. Sorry if I've ranted on but I'm getting to the stage where I don't even like her anymore. How awful is that?