Hi every one,
I have googled and read and now I need someone to be straight with me and I know someone here will help!
My mum has, what seems, advanced dementia. We don't know if it is vascular or alzheimers. The hospital have recently changed her epilepsy drugs (prescribed after the first stroke, which bought on the seizures) and so they won't do a brain scan until December.
She has been in a home for 4 weeks now as my dad cannot be her full time carer (he is 84).
Up until yesterday she has recognised us, sat (awkwardly) in a chair and been able to communicate(ish).
Yesterday she didn't react to us, she is rigid from the shoulders up, with her head back, her teeth are clasped, she didn't speak and gulped loudly when I gave her some water.
Today I called and the CH have told me that there has been no change for the better and that this morning she was choking and couldn't swallow.
She is being seen by the dr this afternoon and I am waiting for a call to give me some news.
I hate to see her like this, trapped in this body that can't move and a head that is so confused.
Should I start preparing my dad for the fact that she may not make Christmas? I hope this doesn't sound cold hearted, but he keeps referring to her coming home and I don't think thats going to happen. Or could she live like this for another 5 years?
Sorry to put you on the spot!
Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I have googled and read and now I need someone to be straight with me and I know someone here will help!
My mum has, what seems, advanced dementia. We don't know if it is vascular or alzheimers. The hospital have recently changed her epilepsy drugs (prescribed after the first stroke, which bought on the seizures) and so they won't do a brain scan until December.
She has been in a home for 4 weeks now as my dad cannot be her full time carer (he is 84).
Up until yesterday she has recognised us, sat (awkwardly) in a chair and been able to communicate(ish).
Yesterday she didn't react to us, she is rigid from the shoulders up, with her head back, her teeth are clasped, she didn't speak and gulped loudly when I gave her some water.
Today I called and the CH have told me that there has been no change for the better and that this morning she was choking and couldn't swallow.
She is being seen by the dr this afternoon and I am waiting for a call to give me some news.
I hate to see her like this, trapped in this body that can't move and a head that is so confused.
Should I start preparing my dad for the fact that she may not make Christmas? I hope this doesn't sound cold hearted, but he keeps referring to her coming home and I don't think thats going to happen. Or could she live like this for another 5 years?
Sorry to put you on the spot!
Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx