Hi all I need some help here, as i am starting to get a bit argh My gran has alzheimers, and it has been getting progressivly bad the past few months. She goes to a day centre once a week (eric liddel). She has nothing to do on monday, tuesday, thursday, friday, saturday or sunday. The family do what we can, we do the max but it still is not enough. What i want to know, is does anybody know any centres in or around Edinburgh, that would be of use to us? One of the other problems we have, is the fact my gran has this guy coming up to "visit" her - but the family are 99% sure he is not visiting, but stealing from her. Every week, he comes up, changing his days all the time, but when he has left, so has something. One day it was her coat, the next was her bus pass, next was £30, and then her coat appeared again (i checked the entire house for the coat, and it was NOT int he house, and she hadnt been anywhere to leave it and find it again) The £30 was on a table, put there by myself - and within 5 mins of her putting it in her purse (i saw her do it) - i went to the shops, came back and it was gone. purse was empty. He saw her put it in aswell, she left the room, it was gone..... I dont know wha tot do about this. When we have said that he is a bad guy and not to trust him, she says "oh leave him alone" and defends him. I think it is because she is scared to lose him as she is lonley. WE wont put her in a home, as we think that it would make her feel worse, and possibly the end. So moving her out of the house is not really an option. She is still a very independant person. The past few weeks though, every day, what day is it? what day is it? i have an appoint ment, when is it? what day is it? - we dont mind telling her, but its starting to stress everybody out. I personally am already a carer for my mum - so having to do my gran at the same time, but the stress is getting so bad, that i have been very close to breakdowns - and im nearly 21! So far, since becoming a carer, my asthma has gotten alot worse, my stresslevels have went throught the roof, depression has kicked in big time, and i just sometimes just want to scream If anybody could give me some advice, on what i can do to help my gran, would be great. She needs something to do every day so she is not bored, and i would prefer if she could have nothing more to do with this loser guy who we are 99.9% is stealing off her. Oh yeh - and she has been talking about "a lodger" and we all think that he is possiblly going to be moving in which none of us want!