My Mum who is 75 was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 4 years ago, we were lucky that we got her diagnosed early and after having a brain scan and blood tests they started Mum on Galantamine 16mg, she was on 24mg but because she started getting dizzy spells they reduced her dosage. For nearly 3 years Mum was coping really well and Dad was looking after her. We moved Mum and Dad from there 3 bedroom house to a lovely 1 bedroom bungalow. I was worried that Mum would struggle but she was coping really well. However the past 10 months have been really tough, Mum's memory has gotten worse, she has wandered out of the bungalow about 4 times, she doesn't recognise Dad as her husband of 55 years, she is starting to think that I am her brother, my three daughters are her nieces etc etc. To make matters worse Dad was diagnosed with Terminal lung cancer in July 2014, because he also has COPD they can't biopsy or remove the tumour and Dad is too weak for chemo or radiotherapy. Dad has been doing all the things like cooking (we prepare the meals and he heats them up)and things like putting the washing on, bins out etc, me and my partner are over there every other day of the week sometimes everyday. Lately all I seem to have to do is stop silly arguments between Mum and Dad and help out more. Dad is now struggling to do chores around the bungalow and When he does do stuff Mum is having a go at him swearing at him even attacking him. I have contacted the local social services to see what help I can get them, for so long me and my partner have been doing everything we can but now I have to admit defeat and need some help. I live 30 miles away so as you can imagine it's all starting to take its toll on me and my partner. I am having at least 8-9 phone calls a night from Mum asking me to pick her up and take her home (to her childhood home),or there is a strange man in the bungalow with her, or she is waiting for me to come home. It's becoming very stressful and difficult. I don't know what to do anymore, I personally think both Mum and Dad should be in a care home but when I mention it to Mum she threatens to kill herself or gets really nasty towards me. I just need some advice all my Mum's 6 brothers and Sister think mum should be in a home although none of them seem to offer me any help apart from the odd visit to see mum and dad. It's just me and my partner and I don't know what to do. I'm crying my eyes out typing this, I hate admitting defeat but I am at a loss. What do I need to say to social services about getting help, who do I turn to, I really don't have a clue anymore, any help or advice would be appreciated. Thank you.