I do hope the ambulance has been by now and your mother is being cared for. You must be exhausted. Do let us know what happens.
I'm waiting for my GP to call, and even if he does, I'm calling 999. She's really bad. I cannot cope. I've rang the SS this morning and they did nothing.
She's in terrible pain, and after a while starts screaming at me.
Hi badgeman,
Just wondering how your mum is, did you get her into hospital? I do hope you're ok, we had the same problem with fil, you just have to be tough and bite the bullet. Keep us posted, take care
Lori
Xx
TP is a safe place to come with whatever is in your head.
If you want to talk to someone, the Samaritans have a phone number they answer 24/7. I'm not good with UK phone numbers but think it is 116 123, free to call.
Please be kind to yourself and take the best care of yourself you can.
We are thinking of you.
I understand..
However, but I don't seem to be taken seriously. I had a paramedic out on Christmas Eve, and she hurt herself then, yet she is so paranoid about being 'put away', she will contradict me to any health worker she sees.
I just thought that I don't know if I should go through her mental health nurse, or through the district nurse. I need help for myself as I can't help her like I should and I feel guilty, but I don't get listened to since the debacle on Christmas Eve.
Sorry, I know I sound contradictory.
Can I sincerely thank everybody who has replied and taken notice of me on this forum. It's really helped when I was alone and had nobody else. I thank you all.
I sound terrible, and I sound selfish, but Mum is in hospital and I've refused to let her come home despite her not having a broken back (for example), as I need a break and I want her looked at properly. I want her x-rayed and I want her to be on antipsychotic drugs, or at least it all looked into properly.
I sound very selfish, and I feel guilty, but to be alone, and have my Siamese cat on my lap and listening to music etc is pure heaven. I fell asleep at 6pmish yesterday and woke up at 4am. I'm going to grab a few hours and wake up at 4pm. I'm still so tired.
I've just had a good talk to the mental health nurse and I think she is actually going to do something.
Thank you all, and forgive me for being lazy. I know it won't last but at least in can I will try to have break.
I thank you all for your support.
I am so glad your Mum is now in hospital and that you are having some time to yourself.
It is really important to look after yourself.
Once you've had some sleep and something to eat, call the hospital.
It's vital to maintain contact with them, even if you don't want to visit just yet. The last thing you need is to have decisions being made without your knowledge.
I hope the mental health nurse is liaising with the medical team who are looking after your Mum.
Can I sincerely thank everybody who has replied and taken notice of me on this forum. It's really helped when I was alone and had nobody else. I thank you all.
I sound terrible, and I sound selfish, but Mum is in hospital and I've refused to let her come home despite her not having a broken back (for example), as I need a break and I want her looked at properly. I want her x-rayed and I want her to be on antipsychotic drugs, or at least it all looked into properly.
I sound very selfish, and I feel guilty, but to be alone, and have my Siamese cat on my lap and listening to music etc is pure heaven. I fell asleep at 6pmish yesterday and woke up at 4am. I'm going to grab a few hours and wake up at 4pm. I'm still so tired.
I've just had a good talk to the mental health nurse and I think she is actually going to do something.
Thank you all, and forgive me for being lazy. I know it won't last but at least in can I will try to have break.
I thank you all for your support.
I work for the ambulance service - you should always call them in such circumstancesI've been posting for a while, and tbh mum had a fall on Christmas Eve. The ambulance came and checked her out, and she was okay except a a few bad bruises on top of her arthritis. I wasn't 100% happy, but I understood their position.
However, mum is extremely paranoid that I'm going to get her 'put away', permanently in a home. So, she had another fall 3 days ago, and I found her lying on the floor, and obviously picked her up etc. Nevertheless, she said she was okay, but today she has been screaming in pain if I helped her to the toilet etc, and she cannot stand up and she is in real pain. She won't exactly tell me where it hurts (she must have had a bad fall she's covered in bruises on her knees, chest and hips).
If I'm honest, I cannot call the GP as they are useless. I do not trust the SS as they are useless. I know I should contact an ambulance but I've promised her that I wouldn't until midday, just to keep her happy and placid.
I do not know who, or what to say. I'm not 100% sure what the problem is, but she is in agony when I lift her. Her hip is killing her, and I think she's cracked her ribs, and/or hurt her knees agin and her hip.
I know I sound stupid, but I'm exhausted and I don't know what to do. It's beyond me how to help her physically. I don't know who I should call.
Sorry to be stupid, and to moan so much.