I miss normal conversation

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by jojop, Nov 11, 2015.

  1. hvml

    hvml Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    297
    North Cornwall
    Hope you have a good night and that your mum is restful in her own comfy bed.

    2 more sleeps to go! Xx
     
  2. jojop

    jojop Registered User

    Nov 9, 2013
    66
    SE London
    Hi, what a busy day you have had. Good idea taking bits ready for April.
    Loving the sound of Broccoli and Stilton, let me know how it turns out.

    No experimenting today, been a case of me and my shadow most of
    today, just got mum settled and sleeping now.

    That's lovely of the Church to offer an upgrade on the wheelchair, sounds like a really supportive village.

    Hope you have a good day and your dad is okay and sleeps well too.

    2 more sleeps
    Xx
     
  3. 1954

    1954 Registered User

    Jan 3, 2013
    3,835
    Sidcup
    Hi jojop

    Have you tried carers support? That was the first help I had which was a sitter with MIL 8 hours every other week. It might be worth a try x


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  4. jojop

    jojop Registered User

    Nov 9, 2013
    66
    SE London
    Hi 1954,
    I have 9 hours sitting service a week
    X
     
  5. jojop

    jojop Registered User

    Nov 9, 2013
    66
    SE London
    Hello Heidi,

    Hope your day has gone well and your dad is okay and you manage to get him settled in this evening.

    Mum was UP at 0430 this morning and insistent I join her, nothing I tried (and believe me I tried everything ) so up I got.
    She fell asleep at 8am, by which time I had cleaned floors, bathroom, toilet and started on kitchen. What did I find when clearing cupboard........Gelatine!!! What a dopey mare, off course that is the thing to use to make a slurry for cakes etc.
    So blinkin' tired not done any today practise session tomorrow here I come.

    Hope you have a good evening, safe journey tomorrow and have a fab week with cats...and off course other half.
    Xx
     
  6. hvml

    hvml Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    297
    North Cornwall
    Hi jjojo

    Sorry to hear that you have hardly had any sleep again. 1954 is right that a sitter would give you a bit of time to yourself, maybe even get your head down for a couple of hours. Dad was up and calling for me in the small hours, but I was thankfully able to get back to sleep quite quickly. I do feel for you. Hope tonight is more restful.

    I have been running around today, but Dad is in and settled. He arrived singing and gave one of the carers a kiss, so I think he will be fine. The euphoria hasn't yet kicked in, coz when we came to leave, after discussing it with him all day, I said"we are going now" and he said -you are having me on!! I phoned when we got home and they said he was fine though. Should be asleep by now.

    Gelatine!! What a brilliant find. That is exactly what you need! The practice session is gathering pace! Should be really satisfying when you get to it.! Talking of satisfaction - I finished my jumper and a friend helped me put it together! It's.....stripey! Multi coloured stripey! Am going to give it to Chico (OH) for Christmas,.

    The more I think about it, the more I hope that you can get a little bit of time for you. I thought I was running ragged, but you are a Trojan!! And you are looking after 2 people. I have nothing but respect!! I'd love to hear that you were looking into getting a bit of help!

    Anyhoo. I'm packed, prepared for Barney, alarm set for 5.00am and ready to hit the road. One technical hitch is that the bank cancelled my card due to fraud on my account! Oh well. At least they found it out in time and I have got ways round it.

    Fingers crossed you get more sleep tonight. Thanks for all your good wishes. Xx
     
  7. hvml

    hvml Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    297
    North Cornwall
    Hiya.

    I have been looking through old posts at situations where caring duties are overwhelming and the first port of call seems to be to contact Social services re a Carer's assessment. If you haven't had one of those already, it might be a good idea to give it a go?

    I know that both your Mum and Sister are dependent on your for everything, but what does that leave you with?

    Pep talk over, but seriously jojo- think about it !

    I'm just about keeping my eyes open. About to crash! Just emptied a couple of heavier things out my case as it was getting difficult to lift and there are steps involved....will take them next time I go for a weekend.

    Half a sleep to go xx
     
  8. hvml

    hvml Registered User

    Oct 10, 2015
    297
    North Cornwall
    Hi jojo

    How has your week been? I had a great week with Chico, but am not quite sure what to expect when I wake Dad up in a bit. I have posted under' Respite blues ' and await any replies with interest.

    The broccoli and stilton soup was really lovely, if a little bit salty with the full amount of cheese.

    I hope you, your Mum and Sister are all well. Xx
     

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