Hi guys,
First time posting on a forum but I’ve been reading everyone’s threads for the past couple of weeks and I’ve got nothing to lost and hopefully some advice gained. My Nan who has looked after me and loved me unconditionally since I was about 3 is developing dementia (I’m assuming) her son, my dad lives in Scotland with his fiancé. We are extremely close and speak most of the time over the phone. My aunt (who lives 3 streets away) used to be very good in taking her mother (my Nan) to any hospital appointments and always brought the grandchildren up to see her on weekends. Lately over the past few years she has hardly been seen except for the couple of times she’s popped in on birthdays or mother’s day. My cousins are grown up with there own children and I’ve lived with my Nan for the past 10 years. It’s always been us two and no one else and to see her decline has been a disaster but I want to be there for her no matter what. I’ve constantly rang my aunt and my dad on advice on what I should do with nan (very stubborn and doesn’t see the change in herself) both have been very dismissive. My partner who lives with us too has been brilliant with her and very patient when me and my Nan get into arguements through frustration. I’m also a support worker for learning disabilities full time and so is my partner. We’ve recently got a new flat about 10 mins away from Nan and I’m still going to sleep over 3-4 nights and go to see her every evening. Should I feel guilty, leaving my Nan who is my bestest friend without anyone to speak to or to visit her except her cat (who I think she’s over feeding) while I go to work and live in my own home. I feel terrible about it and constantly thinking about her and feel like I’m driving myself insane. Sorry to write my life story, haven’t been able to get this off my chest in writing.
First time posting on a forum but I’ve been reading everyone’s threads for the past couple of weeks and I’ve got nothing to lost and hopefully some advice gained. My Nan who has looked after me and loved me unconditionally since I was about 3 is developing dementia (I’m assuming) her son, my dad lives in Scotland with his fiancé. We are extremely close and speak most of the time over the phone. My aunt (who lives 3 streets away) used to be very good in taking her mother (my Nan) to any hospital appointments and always brought the grandchildren up to see her on weekends. Lately over the past few years she has hardly been seen except for the couple of times she’s popped in on birthdays or mother’s day. My cousins are grown up with there own children and I’ve lived with my Nan for the past 10 years. It’s always been us two and no one else and to see her decline has been a disaster but I want to be there for her no matter what. I’ve constantly rang my aunt and my dad on advice on what I should do with nan (very stubborn and doesn’t see the change in herself) both have been very dismissive. My partner who lives with us too has been brilliant with her and very patient when me and my Nan get into arguements through frustration. I’m also a support worker for learning disabilities full time and so is my partner. We’ve recently got a new flat about 10 mins away from Nan and I’m still going to sleep over 3-4 nights and go to see her every evening. Should I feel guilty, leaving my Nan who is my bestest friend without anyone to speak to or to visit her except her cat (who I think she’s over feeding) while I go to work and live in my own home. I feel terrible about it and constantly thinking about her and feel like I’m driving myself insane. Sorry to write my life story, haven’t been able to get this off my chest in writing.
