hi all I haven't wrote on here for along time but often read through for support and guidance. I believe my mom is coming to the end and I feel numb and lost, mom was admitted to hospital a week ago after suffering respiratory arrest after being admitted I was told she had aspiration pneumonia they told me next 24 hours were critical. she came through that and was discharged to her nursing home 6 days later. She had only been out of hospital for 5 days due to 2 falls in two hours then found to have uti and chest infection, she was given two rounds of iv antibiotics during the two weeks she was in there. During this first admission she was rushed to coronary care and I was called to get to hospital as quickly as possible they pumped her full of drugs which did get rid of swelling in her legs and abdomen, she was found to have atrial fibrillation and left side heart failure after this she became really aggressive and they gave her anti pshycotic injections to try and calm her. once again I was told she could suffer heart attack or stroke at anytime she was discharged back to home not eating and immobile, she got worse through the those five days until she was totally unresponsive still hadn't eaten but it wasn't till she turned blue, throthing at the mouth and stopped breathing that the nurses sent for paramedics. She also had another uti which I wasn't told about until she was discharged, so she has had 3 rounds of iv antibiotics in three weeks as well as being on oral antibiotics prior to first admission for a chest infection. Since last Thursday when she was discharged on a stretcher back to the home she has had two teaspoons of yogurt and the last two days has slept and taken less fluids,she is very frail. The nurse in charge spoke to me yesterday about having a dnr put in place and was going to ask the gp to put her on morphine for pain she is suffering. Mom hasn't been well for along time with serious health problems including mixed dementia but the last month has seen a massive deteriation. I don't want to lose my mom but its breaking my heart seeing her suffer this way.