Hi there,
I went to see mum at the new care home today. She was really angry and I found the whole experience really difficult. She was covered in bruises which I know relate to her falling out of bed - the care home told me about this. But she comes out with the most horrific statements about being beaten and abused. In my heart of hearts I know they can't be true - she even said she was raped. She has said this about every care home so far. The first I believed her and had her moved. The second threw us out because they couldn't deal with her and now this is the last option.
All staff at the home seem really nice and they have a good CQC report, there is just a niggling voice saying 'what if some of it is true? You here such awful stories'. I KNOW ITS NOT and I am the one getting paranoid now and it is playing into my fear of being an awful daughter. I don't know how to counteract her accusations. She says the staff are evil - often to their faces. Is this part of settling in? Will it get better? Has anyone experienced the same?
Today was the first visiting session and a member of staff sat there with her. Is that what others have experienced? At the previous care home they left me and her to chat in the lovely garden for an hour. Here I am restricted to 20 minutes with a member of staff on hand. I presume it is in case she falls, or I attempt to hug her or something. It is just adding grist to her (and my) paranoia. I guess I must be patient and hope she settles.
I went to see mum at the new care home today. She was really angry and I found the whole experience really difficult. She was covered in bruises which I know relate to her falling out of bed - the care home told me about this. But she comes out with the most horrific statements about being beaten and abused. In my heart of hearts I know they can't be true - she even said she was raped. She has said this about every care home so far. The first I believed her and had her moved. The second threw us out because they couldn't deal with her and now this is the last option.
All staff at the home seem really nice and they have a good CQC report, there is just a niggling voice saying 'what if some of it is true? You here such awful stories'. I KNOW ITS NOT and I am the one getting paranoid now and it is playing into my fear of being an awful daughter. I don't know how to counteract her accusations. She says the staff are evil - often to their faces. Is this part of settling in? Will it get better? Has anyone experienced the same?
Today was the first visiting session and a member of staff sat there with her. Is that what others have experienced? At the previous care home they left me and her to chat in the lovely garden for an hour. Here I am restricted to 20 minutes with a member of staff on hand. I presume it is in case she falls, or I attempt to hug her or something. It is just adding grist to her (and my) paranoia. I guess I must be patient and hope she settles.