sorry just need to vent . I look after MIL who as VD and has lived with us for 3 years. Today I get up at 630 to her mess in the bathroom all over hand towel and pants stuffed in bath dirty(incontence pants) cleaned that up . I am wondering were all toilet paper is going because I now she does not use it anything but including hand towels ( that's 6 in as many weeks) Checked her room and there it is in tiny squares. cooked her a lunch as she sleeps a lot ( or at least goes to bed) . I go out for 5 mins to shop got back and plug out of sink has gone so I ask her if she has it. No she says so I check her drawer she loves putting things in and you guessed it there it is ,but it was not her apparently . AN hour later I her her come out of her room to go bathroom so I give her 5 mins and check she ok to find her knickers I hand dirty and again she said not her. I just don't worry lets clean you up and as she ready for bed I let her go. Am I mad doing this day in day out first 2 years not to bad but now its hard work and I work from home P/T as full time did nit work looking after her as well. i think I may have to give my work up which will break my heart but husband cannot as he the bread winner and could not clean up what I have to . Sorry for the moan just needed to rant some where instead of shouting at MIL.