I just needed to talk, it seems mum has got worse, she has vascular dementia and she still suffers from the impact of a serious stroke – she can only move one limb properly and she can’t talk or communicate. Lately mum’s behaviour has got worse, she beats us up when we try to take her out for a push in her wheelchair, she threw a table today and hit another person’s foot and made it bleed. I was dragged into the living room where all the carers were stood around looking at me as if I could do something about it, as if I had a naughty child that I hadn’t chastised properly or something... what did they want me to do? It’s hardly my fault... she is in a care home because she needs much more care than I alone am able to give her. I want her to continue having days out and getting fresh air but I am worried because her growing outbursts are starting to get in the way. A week ago she threw her blanket off, showing her under-things, she kicked off her shoes and ripped off her coat and kept hitting out screaming and she lifted her leg as best she could (it’s very contracted) in the air showing everything she’s got while I rushed down the street trying to get her to a safe place as quickly as possible. I just want to do the right thing but I don’t know what that is. I thought about getting her a car so that if she is doing this sort of thing we can just drive her back to safety straight away but then I worried what if she puts the driver off with her behavioural problems and now I don’t know what to do for the best.
I’m just a bit lost I guess, mum used to always listen to me and if anyone could get her to calm down it was me, now not even I can’t make things right and I feel useless and at a loss. I guess everyone in my situation must feel this way sometimes. Now I’m not sure who to turn to for help with her and I’m worried that she’ll never see daylight again if I can’t get her to a point where I can take her out. Any advice, any words at all... I’d just be grateful for someone to tell me they understand right now. Thanks for reading.
I’m just a bit lost I guess, mum used to always listen to me and if anyone could get her to calm down it was me, now not even I can’t make things right and I feel useless and at a loss. I guess everyone in my situation must feel this way sometimes. Now I’m not sure who to turn to for help with her and I’m worried that she’ll never see daylight again if I can’t get her to a point where I can take her out. Any advice, any words at all... I’d just be grateful for someone to tell me they understand right now. Thanks for reading.