I feel I can’t cope any longer with my husband who was diagnosed with Alzrimers three years ago. I love him so much but find myself argueing and disagreeing with him all the time. I know the problem is the illness not him but this makes me feel even more guilty and depressed. I was finding it difficult to cope before lockdown but now without all the support unavailable, I feel I .am falling apart. Every day is an endless cycle of frustration, anxiety, fear and guilt . My husband is a lovely mild mannered man but he seems to argue with and resent me no matter what I do these days. Sorry to sound so negative.
I just can’t .cope any more.
- Thread starter Lezah
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I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. It is nearly three years since my husband was diagnosed alzheimers and I had the same problem. I have learnt over the past year that it is best just to agree with everything that he says. It seems to take the wind out of his sails and whilst it goes against the grain it is worth it for the peace that it brings. Hope this helps.
Jacqui
Jacqui
Welcome to the forum @Lezah.
I’m so sorry you are having such a tough time. I wondered if you would find this thread of any help -
forum.alzheimers.org.uk
I’m glad you’ve found the forum. You will find lots of help and support here.
I’m so sorry you are having such a tough time. I wondered if you would find this thread of any help -
Compassionate Communication with the Memory Impaired
The following piece was posted a while ago on DSF and made a big impression on me. It is something I have referred to time after time and tried hard to follow. We have many new members who may not have seen it before. Yesterday I posted it on another Thread but thought it might be helpful if...
forum.alzheimers.org.uk
I’m glad you’ve found the forum. You will find lots of help and support here.
Hiya lezah, i feel your pain and frustration as thats exactly what my wife says as i was diagnosed with dementia years ago. There is no rhyme or reason to this disease, one day i am mild-mannered, the day after i awake with the devil himslef inside me, but none of this is your fault, please remember this, you have already stated you know its not your
husband's fault which is a huge step forward. A few deep breaths, a little time to yourself is a must and make sure his illness doesn't become your illness
Hope this help xx
husband's fault which is a huge step forward. A few deep breaths, a little time to yourself is a must and make sure his illness doesn't become your illness
Hope this help xx
Hi everyone that exactly how I feel right now, I just cant cope any more. OH has another UTI and on top of this he has constipation docs gave him a course of antibiotics last wed after he had a fall last wednesday morning his mobility is shocking. He has gone to bed in a stinking mood swearing like a trouper ( he doesnt swear). I am at my wits end now, I dont know wheather its the dementia or the UTI or both. I know he cant help it but all I want is for my husband to come back to me and to go back to life before this damned dementia took over. [Sorry about the rant.
