I haven’t been into dad since last week. To be honest I’m a bit hurt but I will get over it. After the carer arrived and asked “ What are you doing here? “ my back was up.
Apparently other carers are saying that dad does not always know what he is doing. But for her he is fine!
When she walked in his eyes lit up and he was smiling. He asked how she was etc. I felt like the spare wheel. He always puts on his “ good face and behaves accordingly “as he likes her.
As well as being asked what was I doing there I got told that if you get John to straighten his legs and turn himself around he can get up. I was so tempted to say you had better tell that to the two paramedics then who had to haul him off the toilet. She then proceeded to tell me that she had put him on the toilet via the commode. As I had told the care company this when they had phoned me to ask advice she was lucky I didn’t say anything!
Another thing was she doesn’t like the cushion that dad sits on( it is a big long repose that goes over the recliner)as he slips down it. ( I felt like saying go tell it to the OT that supplied it! )
I had bought dad some new clothes as he has very little trousers now and I wanted him to try them on to see if they fit.
Apparently he can wear them when I take him out(that is not going to be anytime soon tbh)
As he has enough clothes according to her.
Dads response was “she works hard”. I informed him so do the other carers..
I don’t enjoy being manipulated and so my relationship has gone back to how it was when I was a child! Non existent!
When I told mum all this she said she was surprised I had lasted 51/2 years as I never had a good relationship with him before.
Im taking her advice and not going at meal times (I never know when they are) and going to see dad 2x a week now. I ‘m done!
Im going to spend more time with mum as she doesn’t have any carers at all. I’m also looking for a job for a few hours a week. I have had enough of it all!
Apparently other carers are saying that dad does not always know what he is doing. But for her he is fine!
When she walked in his eyes lit up and he was smiling. He asked how she was etc. I felt like the spare wheel. He always puts on his “ good face and behaves accordingly “as he likes her.
As well as being asked what was I doing there I got told that if you get John to straighten his legs and turn himself around he can get up. I was so tempted to say you had better tell that to the two paramedics then who had to haul him off the toilet. She then proceeded to tell me that she had put him on the toilet via the commode. As I had told the care company this when they had phoned me to ask advice she was lucky I didn’t say anything!
Another thing was she doesn’t like the cushion that dad sits on( it is a big long repose that goes over the recliner)as he slips down it. ( I felt like saying go tell it to the OT that supplied it! )
I had bought dad some new clothes as he has very little trousers now and I wanted him to try them on to see if they fit.
Apparently he can wear them when I take him out(that is not going to be anytime soon tbh)
As he has enough clothes according to her.
Dads response was “she works hard”. I informed him so do the other carers..
I don’t enjoy being manipulated and so my relationship has gone back to how it was when I was a child! Non existent!
When I told mum all this she said she was surprised I had lasted 51/2 years as I never had a good relationship with him before.
Im taking her advice and not going at meal times (I never know when they are) and going to see dad 2x a week now. I ‘m done!
Im going to spend more time with mum as she doesn’t have any carers at all. I’m also looking for a job for a few hours a week. I have had enough of it all!