My Mum (89yoa) who has Alzheimer's has just (yesterday) gone into a fabulous new care home. I feel so guilty as I promised her and my (recently deceased) Dad I'd live with and look after her as long as possible. I have one older sibling who lives 250+ miles away so it's mostly been left to me to do the caring 24/7. Mum has had a 'companion' for 2hrs a day Mon-Thurs since before I moved in to care for her 18months ago. I have coped, just, until last weekend when my Mum and I were both ill with really bad colds. I was up with Mum 6 times in the night on Sat/Sun so sleep deprived as well as feeling really rotten.
Took Mum, with her agreement, to visit the home on Tuesday, she liked it but was reticent to agree to moving in. Later she agreed to give it a try. She had an assessment done Wednesday and went in yesterday (Thursday) for a 'few weeks'. Im hoping she settles as want it to be a permanent placement for her. It all happened so quickly, out of necessity, and I feel so guilty as she didn't think she was 'ready' to move into a home.
I know it's all very new and raw but I feel awful that I could no longer cope with her. ?
Took Mum, with her agreement, to visit the home on Tuesday, she liked it but was reticent to agree to moving in. Later she agreed to give it a try. She had an assessment done Wednesday and went in yesterday (Thursday) for a 'few weeks'. Im hoping she settles as want it to be a permanent placement for her. It all happened so quickly, out of necessity, and I feel so guilty as she didn't think she was 'ready' to move into a home.
I know it's all very new and raw but I feel awful that I could no longer cope with her. ?