Dad has been in hospital for 2 weeks. The day before he went in to hospital he was walking about unaided and ate a roast chicken dinner! The pneumonia has gone but he's not really eating or drinking much. Every procedure, from checking his blood pressure to fitting cannulas, causes him huge distress. The doctors are leaving him with a subcutaneous drip over the weekend but will then remove it on Monday. Since having this extra fluid he has moments of coming around. Physio managed to get him sitting in a chair and he ate a few biscuits yesterday. Next week they will leave him without any iv or drip and are saying medically they can't do anything else. We've had so many ups and downs over the last 2 weeks with docs saying it's touch and go and then he seems to suddenly get better. I am so completely drained by it all.
I have been by his bed from 7am until 3pm every day and have held his hand as he's begged me to make the doctors stop taking blood etc. I'm so bloody angry. I'm angry that my brother hasn't been in contact with my parents over the past 2 years and has made no attempt to see him even now. I'm angry that my mum spends all her time crying saying she's lonely at home without him and she doesn't want him to die. I'm angry that my mum has booked herself in at the hairdressers this morning and she expects me to take her meaning dad is left on his own in hospital. I've had to make all the decisions about his care as mum just says she can't take it in and cries. I'm angry that I've had to beg work for 2 weeks off so I could be with dad. I'm even angry that my husband is feeling sorry for himself because he has a cold and has spent the past 2 days in bed. I'm angry that I have to go back to work next week and no one else will be there for my dad when he needs someone the most. I can't keep this up for weeks/months to come and can't see an end to this enormous stress. I just don't know how to make it better. Next week I have to decide whether to move dad to a care home or bring him home to us again. I have no idea what is the right thing to do.
I have been by his bed from 7am until 3pm every day and have held his hand as he's begged me to make the doctors stop taking blood etc. I'm so bloody angry. I'm angry that my brother hasn't been in contact with my parents over the past 2 years and has made no attempt to see him even now. I'm angry that my mum spends all her time crying saying she's lonely at home without him and she doesn't want him to die. I'm angry that my mum has booked herself in at the hairdressers this morning and she expects me to take her meaning dad is left on his own in hospital. I've had to make all the decisions about his care as mum just says she can't take it in and cries. I'm angry that I've had to beg work for 2 weeks off so I could be with dad. I'm even angry that my husband is feeling sorry for himself because he has a cold and has spent the past 2 days in bed. I'm angry that I have to go back to work next week and no one else will be there for my dad when he needs someone the most. I can't keep this up for weeks/months to come and can't see an end to this enormous stress. I just don't know how to make it better. Next week I have to decide whether to move dad to a care home or bring him home to us again. I have no idea what is the right thing to do.