Hello
I haven't been on here in a while. My Mum has been in care for two years now and my reason for posting is that I still feel so bereft (sometimes more than others) but I also feel stuck and unable to properly progress with my life. I just wonder if anyone else out there is in a similar situation feels like this. I feel my life is in limbo.
I was the sole carer on my Mum's terrible journey with Alzheimer's culminating with her going into care two years ago. I continue to visit her 3 to 4 times every week and I am in constant contact with the care home, working to adjust her meds and trying to enable her to achieve of a good quality of life. Her meds have been changed many times in the past four months (including anti psychotic meds. It is the anti-psychotic and anxiety tablets which I think are affecting her badly or it is these combined with the other meds for alzheimer's. Of course every time it's changed it takes a while to get in and out of her system which affects her badly.
Today Mum looked at me deeply and told me I was beautiful and that she loved me which was wonderful. She still knows who I am. She then started up with the paranoia though, that the care home was very bad and we needed to get out of there. The day before she hit me and was screaming out which is a new thing (the screaming). Very sad.
Anyway I just wondered if anyone has this feeling of their life being in limbo and if they have any coping strategies for it.
Thank you
I haven't been on here in a while. My Mum has been in care for two years now and my reason for posting is that I still feel so bereft (sometimes more than others) but I also feel stuck and unable to properly progress with my life. I just wonder if anyone else out there is in a similar situation feels like this. I feel my life is in limbo.
I was the sole carer on my Mum's terrible journey with Alzheimer's culminating with her going into care two years ago. I continue to visit her 3 to 4 times every week and I am in constant contact with the care home, working to adjust her meds and trying to enable her to achieve of a good quality of life. Her meds have been changed many times in the past four months (including anti psychotic meds. It is the anti-psychotic and anxiety tablets which I think are affecting her badly or it is these combined with the other meds for alzheimer's. Of course every time it's changed it takes a while to get in and out of her system which affects her badly.
Today Mum looked at me deeply and told me I was beautiful and that she loved me which was wonderful. She still knows who I am. She then started up with the paranoia though, that the care home was very bad and we needed to get out of there. The day before she hit me and was screaming out which is a new thing (the screaming). Very sad.
Anyway I just wondered if anyone has this feeling of their life being in limbo and if they have any coping strategies for it.
Thank you