1. Linda Mc

    Linda Mc Registered User

    Jul 3, 2005
    1,881
    Nr Mold
    Just had a delivery of fresh fish to pack for freezer and asked Vic to open some more freezer bags for me. He couldn't manage it and I snapped at him and now I feel so awful! He looked so bewildered. Why, oh why did I lose patience over something so petty?:(

    He has gone off with his Crossroads lady for the afternoon and hopefully he will forget about it.

    Meanwhile I'll finish the packing for going away tomorrow.

    Linda x
     
  2. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    Oh Linda! My every sympathy. I have to confess to 'losing it' recently with mum over changing her bed (and several other mostly petty things over the last few months). Of course, she wants to 'help' - but 'helping' acquires an entirely new definition!!!! :rolleyes: Last week when I realised she had lost the art of even stuffing a pillowcase I just resolved to make sure I get the laundry changed when she is out at Daycare and I don't have to actually refuse her offers of 'help' - or risk getting frustrated with her when she does.

    That probably puts me in trouble for failing to promote her independence and skills! :(

    I think part of it too, is our way of expressing the sadness that we are witnessing their loss of such simple skills, never mind the pressure of jobs to be done and the sooner done the better .......

    Hugs, Karen, x
     
  3. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    #3 Margarita, Sep 19, 2007
    Last edited: Sep 19, 2007
    No how you feel , what I say to myself when I get stress with coping with everything on my own with my mother would get right snappy , don't be so hard on yourself margaret give yourself a break from beating yourself up about it , took deep breath carry on .

    and the build up of packing going on holiday can also be very stress full can make you snappy, its normal . I know I did not have the patience of a saint when mum tried to help in the past in the kitchen as time went on I just learn not to ask her anymore as if I was not patience with her........ duck because she get very angry things could go flying :D
     
  4. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    4,348
    Birmingham Hades
    Hi Linda
    it all about frustration.
    You are not really shouting at them.
    You are shouting at the world,the disease the whole situation.
    You shout at them not because they cannot perform the simple tasks but because you so badly wnat them too.
    Don't blame yourself, Mum will forget.
    Hope this makes sense.
    Norman
     
  5. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,560
    Kent
    It`s such a learning curve Linda, and you can`t be expected to be Mrs. Patience 24/7, especially when you have 101 other things to do, preparing for your holiday.

    I think this is when you realize how much the onus is on you, and only you, to get things done.

    I`m sure Vic will have forgotten all about it by the time he comes home, and if you give him an extra big hug and kiss, he`ll think it`s his birthday. :)

    Enjoy your holiday.

    Love xx
     
  6. Linda Mc

    Linda Mc Registered User

    Jul 3, 2005
    1,881
    Nr Mold
    Thanks everyone. Feel better now..... and the packing is done!

    Speak to you when we get back.

    Linda x
     
  7. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Norman, what a helpful reply. I don't think any of us would claim never to have shouted (unless we some saints among us), and the guilt afterward is awful. But you're right, it's anger at seeing yet another skill gone, just another los of ability.

    Linda, don't feel guilty, it happens to all of us. And have a great holiday.

    Love,
     
  8. Cate

    Cate Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    1,370
    Newport, Gwent
    Linda dont feel guilty, just think about it, if Vic had annoyed you pre AD you would have said something............. mum and I used to have our spats before she was ill, and I didnt turn into St Cate after!!! Just much grinding of teeth:eek:

    Enjoy the hols.

    Love
    Cate
     

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