My mum is 88 and in a care home. She no longer recognises me and hardly reacts to anything around her. She no longer reacts when I speak to her (we've not had and meaningful conversation for months now). She's lost a lot of weight and I barely recognise her. I dread visiting her. I feel guilty if I don't visit and when I do, I feel guilty that I don't stay very long. She has no real quality of life despite the loving care and attention of the staff at the home. I'd rather not go at all. Does that make me a bad person?