Hello Anne
I found as long as my husband had some insight into his illness he suffered the deepest depression and anxiety.
He took as much medication as allowed but it only touched the surface, he had long negative periods and a precious few times when we could go out and get a bit of pleasure out of life.
Our saving grace was using Direct Payments to get agency carers in on the pretext they were coming to help me with my housework. Dhiren always thought I had too much to do, and somehow was able to realise if my housework was done it would give me more time to spend with him.
When the carers/cleaners came they suggested from day one I should go out and have a break. I told Dhiren I would do some shopping while the `cleaner` was here because I was embarrassed sitting doing nothing while someone else cleaned the house. I asked him to stay and make sure everything was all right.
Economy with the truth I know but it worked like a dream and enabled him to get used to having another person in the house.
Sorry to go all round the houses telling you this but sometimes we need to be a bit inventive in order to improve life for ourselves.
You will find your own way and once you do, life will be a bit easier I hope.
I found as long as my husband had some insight into his illness he suffered the deepest depression and anxiety.
He took as much medication as allowed but it only touched the surface, he had long negative periods and a precious few times when we could go out and get a bit of pleasure out of life.
Our saving grace was using Direct Payments to get agency carers in on the pretext they were coming to help me with my housework. Dhiren always thought I had too much to do, and somehow was able to realise if my housework was done it would give me more time to spend with him.
When the carers/cleaners came they suggested from day one I should go out and have a break. I told Dhiren I would do some shopping while the `cleaner` was here because I was embarrassed sitting doing nothing while someone else cleaned the house. I asked him to stay and make sure everything was all right.
Economy with the truth I know but it worked like a dream and enabled him to get used to having another person in the house.
Sorry to go all round the houses telling you this but sometimes we need to be a bit inventive in order to improve life for ourselves.
You will find your own way and once you do, life will be a bit easier I hope.