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I don't want to live any more..

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by Rageddy Anne, May 15, 2015.

  1. Rageddy Anne

    Rageddy Anne Registered User

    Feb 21, 2013
    5,990
    Cotswolds
    My poor husband has borne this wretched disease so bravely, with his poor head getting increasingly muddled. He's had Aricept, now Memantine, and we'll never know if they helped. Every day, as the sun starts to go down, his worry and agitation increases, and today he just couldn't cope. That's when he said " I don't want to live my more". This is a good man who has worked hard and successfully, helping others and never asking for anything for himself. And now he's reduced to wishing this was the end of it all.

    We will soldier on, of course. But I hope there'll be a discovery one day that'll stop this particular disease.
     
  2. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,602
    Female
    Dundee
    Oh Anne. The poor soul. Poor you too as there's nothing else for it but to soldier on. Thinking of you both. X
     
  3. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,228
    Merseyside
    Oh Anne I'm so sorry for you both.
    Sending love & hugs xx
     
  4. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    My heart goes out to you both.Wish I could offer you both some comfort. xx
     
  5. Essie

    Essie Registered User

    Feb 11, 2015
    566
    Sending you heartfelt sympathy and huge hugs Anne and here's to the day, and it can't come quickly enough, when none of us, our LO's or ourselves, need to suffer any more with this truly dreadful disease.
     
  6. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hello Rageddyann just gone online, l have had a bad day much the same as you, how do we cope with this terrible disease l do not know, l know how you feel, it is so stressful for us, my hubby was a very successful business man, we have had a wonderful life, until Mr. Alzheimers came along!!!! I am sure you understand, thinking of you, keep on caring
     
  7. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Just read your post about your hubby golf clubs, my hubby was a kneen golfer, his golf clubs are still in our garage, will never get rid of them, he sometimes looks innhis garage, but doesn't recognise them, l feel so sad.
     
  8. mabbs

    mabbs Registered User

    Dec 1, 2014
    238
    Lancashire
    must be so hard for you anne, I am thinking of you, I guess one day they will come up with a cure, it cant be too soon. sending hugs and well wishes xx
     
  9. chick1962

    chick1962 Registered User

    Apr 3, 2014
    11,280
    Female
    near Folkestone
    Oh Anne only just saw this ! My heart goes out to you . Xxxxxxxxxxx


    Sent from my iPhone using Talking Point
     
  10. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    10,659
    North West
    Such a sad thread Anne, but you were right to post. It helps to share even the saddest experiences and there's no better place to do it than TP. I hope you can feel the empathy.
     
  11. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,534
    North East England
    Oh RA, i'm so sorry. What a heartbreaking thing to hear your lovely husband say. Thinking of you both as you soldier on xx
     
  12. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,597
    Kent
    I'm so sorry Anne for both you and your husband. It's not the way any of us imagined our lives would be .
     
  13. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,976
    Suffolk
    (((Hugs))) Anne, I'm with you, in a very similar situation. I hate it. Every time I see OH, I try and see the man he was...the great times we had...it's heartbreaking for us all...
     
  14. maryw

    maryw Registered User

    Nov 16, 2008
    3,805
    Surrey
    So sorry Anne. I understand your sadness. Life doesn't work out as planned and sometimes that is the biggest shock of all xx
     
  15. Kjn

    Kjn Registered User

    Jul 27, 2013
    5,835
    Oh Anne , I'm so sorry xxxxxx
     
  16. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    I'm so sorry Anne, it must break your heart to hear him say that. I wish I could say something helpful, but I just send a hug for you both xxx
     
  17. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    I just want to wrap my arms around the pair of you.
     
  18. Tinkerbelle258

    Tinkerbelle258 Registered User

    Nov 13, 2012
    60
    N E Lincolnshire
    Oh Anne, I know exactly how you feel. Every morning when I shower and dress my husband we sit on the bed while I put his trousers on. Every morning he looks me in the eye and says 'I want to die'. I know what he's asking but I make light of it and focus on the day ahead. We carry on as best we can. Stay strong. xx
     
  19. reedysue

    reedysue Registered User

    Nov 4, 2014
    4,605
    Scotland
    So sorry Anne, that must have been such a shock to hear xx.
     
  20. Feline

    Feline Registered User

    Oct 25, 2012
    164
    East Devon
    Oh RA I'm so sorry to see your post and I'm sending hugs, You haven't said if your husband takes anything for agitation, perhaps your GP could prescribe a medication e.g. Citalapram.
    Take care while soldiering on.
     

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