I'm very moved by all of these posts and have another aspect to mention which has come as something of a shock. Since my husband died a month ago my daughters have arranged an astonishing number of outings and events for me which have generated a serious amount of photographs. I barely recognise the elderly white haired woman I have become! My age has crept up on me unnoticed while I was caring. I haven't worn a dress for years because we couldn't socialise after John lost his mobility. Not too sure how I'm going to deal with all of this but it has given me a lot to think about.