Hi,
I am new to this, been on the internet which seems like forever and came across this forum.
I am so shocked on how many people have parents with AD as young as my dad.
Basically to cut a long story short my dad has AD he is only 64 and has been diagnosed since 2002. I am his only child and am only relative near (mum died when i was young ) . He lives on his own and owns his own house. he has a care package (approx equates to 2hrs a day) it is all been working well.My dad is fine no hassle he is still quite indepandant considering and very active. The carers are great no worries at mo but know got to look into the future he cannot stay there forever on his own as he will need 24hr care.
we are not at that point yet who knows could be 1 yr away or 10 So its come to the crunch: do we move in with him? I have been seriuosly considering this for a while. The idea is to build an ext on his house so he has has own flat so we are not under the same roof.
However its not just me and dad to consider. I have a family of my own husband and daughter 6. They all support me and are keen to live with my dad. All sounds easy but what are the implications of doing this? i still want to work so does my husband we want to carry on as normal as possible i will care for my dad when not at work as much as poss but still need to consider my daughter and husbands needs. other big question we will we still get support off social services i have no idea of what strain emotionally this will have on us all. It could be a decision that works or it could not.
I feel well in the dark its a big step and dont want to do it with my eyes closed.
to end i want a result where my dad is happy in his own home (which he wants he is terrified of going into care) and so are we can this be possible?
Anyone out there who is experiencing the same decision or doing it now.
Sorry long post but had a bad day. phoned local aged concern today for advice and i was so surprised but she gave no advice on our situation very disappointed with response. Although when I rang the senior help line the lady was very nice and advised me to contact our local aged concern as they have services where i can have a meeting face to face i just seem to speaking to so many different people and organisations on phone but not getting any real help. Oh well I will get there i have an appointment with CAB soon so hopefully can get some advice.
And my thoughts are with everyone who have a loved one with AD.
I have good and bad days today not so good but i am determined not to let this awful diesease take my dad away from me yet. he still smiles when i walk through the door and hugs and kisses my grand daughter every time he sees her.
ps sorry but my punctuation and spelling is bad but i am excused had a long day today
Thanks for reading
I love my dad and dont know what to do for the best. He is all i have left and he still is my dad and knows who i am, .
I am new to this, been on the internet which seems like forever and came across this forum.
I am so shocked on how many people have parents with AD as young as my dad.
Basically to cut a long story short my dad has AD he is only 64 and has been diagnosed since 2002. I am his only child and am only relative near (mum died when i was young ) . He lives on his own and owns his own house. he has a care package (approx equates to 2hrs a day) it is all been working well.My dad is fine no hassle he is still quite indepandant considering and very active. The carers are great no worries at mo but know got to look into the future he cannot stay there forever on his own as he will need 24hr care.
we are not at that point yet who knows could be 1 yr away or 10 So its come to the crunch: do we move in with him? I have been seriuosly considering this for a while. The idea is to build an ext on his house so he has has own flat so we are not under the same roof.
However its not just me and dad to consider. I have a family of my own husband and daughter 6. They all support me and are keen to live with my dad. All sounds easy but what are the implications of doing this? i still want to work so does my husband we want to carry on as normal as possible i will care for my dad when not at work as much as poss but still need to consider my daughter and husbands needs. other big question we will we still get support off social services i have no idea of what strain emotionally this will have on us all. It could be a decision that works or it could not.
I feel well in the dark its a big step and dont want to do it with my eyes closed.
to end i want a result where my dad is happy in his own home (which he wants he is terrified of going into care) and so are we can this be possible?
Anyone out there who is experiencing the same decision or doing it now.
Sorry long post but had a bad day. phoned local aged concern today for advice and i was so surprised but she gave no advice on our situation very disappointed with response. Although when I rang the senior help line the lady was very nice and advised me to contact our local aged concern as they have services where i can have a meeting face to face i just seem to speaking to so many different people and organisations on phone but not getting any real help. Oh well I will get there i have an appointment with CAB soon so hopefully can get some advice.
And my thoughts are with everyone who have a loved one with AD.
I have good and bad days today not so good but i am determined not to let this awful diesease take my dad away from me yet. he still smiles when i walk through the door and hugs and kisses my grand daughter every time he sees her.
ps sorry but my punctuation and spelling is bad but i am excused had a long day today
Thanks for reading
I love my dad and dont know what to do for the best. He is all i have left and he still is my dad and knows who i am, .