I knew it was coming, of course. My dad is now in the later stages of dementia. He no longer speaks and has become quite slow and old-looking. He still smiles, but the obvious recognition of "she's my visitor" wasn't really there today. Last month if I said "I love you dad " he'd say "love you", but not today. When I was leaving, a member of staff asked if I thought he still knew me, and I don't. I read the other thread about how to cope with the emotional crash / upset after visiting. I am wondering if counseling would be useful.