Hi all, it's been some time since I last posted a thread. I've had quite a lot going on in my family lately and on top of it all I'm getting very frustrated with the problem of my husband driving.
After his last driving assessment he was given his licence for a year, This ran out in May this year but he has never received another appointment. After various calls to DVLA (and they will only speak to me after they have spoken to David) I was told they would send me a letter which covered him for driving until 'the medical team have looked at his case'. I tried to say this wasn't appropriate. I don't know what the medical team are looking at as he hasn't had another assessment.
I had to go into hospital for a couple of days last month and he asked me to ring the assessment centre, I was told he should have received a letter 'allowing him to drive until........' I discreetly told them that he had received this but I thought this was inappropriate. The person said they would get someone to ring back, I asked not to ring after that day as I would be in hospital. The next day as I waited for my op David rang my mobile excitedly saying the assessment centre had rung him and he was free to drive until 'the medical team had assessed his case'.
The day I was due to come out of hospital I found out he had cancelled my lift from my brother and would drive to town to pick me up himself. I was so upset and asked him not to. In anger he put the phone down and wouldn't answer it for the rest of the day, even when I did finally get home he wouldn't come out of the bedroom for 3 hours.
I really don't know what to do now, I have to go back into hospital in 2 weeks as I have thyroid cancer and need another operation, I know this will happen again and I am at the end of my tether. I cannot talk to him as he is now so uncaring towards me and we don't have sensible conversations anymore. I cannot speak to DVLA without him being there, I did try to ring them the other day and thought I would just relay my fears to anyone who answered but it was just the automated loop and I couldn't speak to anyone. It could be tha he may pass his assessment whenever he gets one, I don't know, but knowing how he is I really don't think he should be driving.
Has anyone any suggestion as to what I can do, sorry for the long moan.
Dee
After his last driving assessment he was given his licence for a year, This ran out in May this year but he has never received another appointment. After various calls to DVLA (and they will only speak to me after they have spoken to David) I was told they would send me a letter which covered him for driving until 'the medical team have looked at his case'. I tried to say this wasn't appropriate. I don't know what the medical team are looking at as he hasn't had another assessment.
I had to go into hospital for a couple of days last month and he asked me to ring the assessment centre, I was told he should have received a letter 'allowing him to drive until........' I discreetly told them that he had received this but I thought this was inappropriate. The person said they would get someone to ring back, I asked not to ring after that day as I would be in hospital. The next day as I waited for my op David rang my mobile excitedly saying the assessment centre had rung him and he was free to drive until 'the medical team had assessed his case'.
The day I was due to come out of hospital I found out he had cancelled my lift from my brother and would drive to town to pick me up himself. I was so upset and asked him not to. In anger he put the phone down and wouldn't answer it for the rest of the day, even when I did finally get home he wouldn't come out of the bedroom for 3 hours.
I really don't know what to do now, I have to go back into hospital in 2 weeks as I have thyroid cancer and need another operation, I know this will happen again and I am at the end of my tether. I cannot talk to him as he is now so uncaring towards me and we don't have sensible conversations anymore. I cannot speak to DVLA without him being there, I did try to ring them the other day and thought I would just relay my fears to anyone who answered but it was just the automated loop and I couldn't speak to anyone. It could be tha he may pass his assessment whenever he gets one, I don't know, but knowing how he is I really don't think he should be driving.
Has anyone any suggestion as to what I can do, sorry for the long moan.
Dee