I am new on here. My Grandma has Alzheimers. She is amazing for her age (early 90s) and lives alone. I am the most local relative she has and I see her only once a week to have a nice meal and chat together. I also constantly think about her and contact professionals as and when required and generally look out for her. She has no official power of atourney etc.
I am in a dilemma. She cannot manage safely at home because she has no insight what so ever into her inability to remember medication, meals, drinks etc. We have tried carers for the past 2 weeks as she was discharged home from hospital with a care package against her wishes after a mental capacity assessment deemed she could not make that decision herself. She has not engaged at all well, and the lack of insight and unwillingness to engage has resulted in agitation and unusual behaviours such as pushing people etc.
Her wishes are definitely to remain at home, but it is difficult to see how that can really work when she cannot and will not engage with carers (we don't call them that for obvious reasons!).
My Dad, having been ad hoc at best with his involvement (mainly financial) has turned up, and I understand has organised an urgent psychiatric social work assessment for tomorrow morning in his hope to admit her to a care home so he can return home hundreds of miles away. He has said the urgency is due to her having no care (family are not able to care permenantly and because she won't see the need for carers he feels this is not an option either).
I am worried to death as I am afraid his agenda is an easy life for him as opposed to a well thought out plan which keeps her wishes central. She does not have an allocated Social Worker as she has been self funding and my Dad has excluded me from discussions with duty Social Workers at this stage.
I did ring a Social Worker yesterday to convey my need to be involved and the fact that I would say I am her key person in terms of stability and reliability. I suggested a meeting and an allocated Social Worker but it seems he has said otherwise and I have not heard anything back.
Can anyone please advise me? Many Thanks.
I am in a dilemma. She cannot manage safely at home because she has no insight what so ever into her inability to remember medication, meals, drinks etc. We have tried carers for the past 2 weeks as she was discharged home from hospital with a care package against her wishes after a mental capacity assessment deemed she could not make that decision herself. She has not engaged at all well, and the lack of insight and unwillingness to engage has resulted in agitation and unusual behaviours such as pushing people etc.
Her wishes are definitely to remain at home, but it is difficult to see how that can really work when she cannot and will not engage with carers (we don't call them that for obvious reasons!).
My Dad, having been ad hoc at best with his involvement (mainly financial) has turned up, and I understand has organised an urgent psychiatric social work assessment for tomorrow morning in his hope to admit her to a care home so he can return home hundreds of miles away. He has said the urgency is due to her having no care (family are not able to care permenantly and because she won't see the need for carers he feels this is not an option either).
I am worried to death as I am afraid his agenda is an easy life for him as opposed to a well thought out plan which keeps her wishes central. She does not have an allocated Social Worker as she has been self funding and my Dad has excluded me from discussions with duty Social Workers at this stage.
I did ring a Social Worker yesterday to convey my need to be involved and the fact that I would say I am her key person in terms of stability and reliability. I suggested a meeting and an allocated Social Worker but it seems he has said otherwise and I have not heard anything back.
Can anyone please advise me? Many Thanks.