My mum moved in with me 6 months ago after things deteriorated at home. She does not think there is anything wrong with her and refuses help. Social Services have told me if she refuses help they can't force it on her, I guess the same would go for private care as she is physically aggressive if I try to get her to shower or do anything she doesn't want to do. So we are coping on our own. Doctors and Social Workers all refuse to do anything unless my mum agrees to it. Well she won't! They seem to have no understanding of Alzheimer's at all. Things are becoming more difficult at home. She thinks the house is hers (it is nothing like her house) when I explain it isn't, she shouts and argues that it is her house. I have tried going along with it but then I get shouted at for taking over her house and not paying her! I can't win. She needs 24 hour care now so family life is non existent. She is just angry and bitter and difficult all the time. If there were moments of happiness I think I could cope, but everything is stressful. I need respite but how do care homes cope with aggressive patients. She went in a few months back and did the same thing in the home, she tried to get the other patients out of their beds as she thought they were in her house. She came home very bruised because they had to man handle her to stop other patients and staff being harmed. She is a lot worse now so I don't know what would happen. My mum was generous and loving and would never have spoken to me or my family the way she does now. It hurts me to think how horrified she would be if she could see how she is behaving. I know there is not an answer, it is just such an awful disease. Got to finish now as I am being told what a horrible person I am for giving my attention to something else other than my mum!!