It had to be done, for the first time I had to tell the MIL she had to change her clothes tomorrow and that she needed to shower. I felt bad doing it, but she has worn the same clothes for 5 days and I am pretty sure has not showered for 2 months. But what happens if she does not shower, I cant force her and she lives in the annex to so I cant just jump on her first thing in the morning before she gets dressed. I have to take her to the docs next week for a check up and have emailed the doc to give her the heads up to impress the showering on the MIL - but as you know this might go in one ear and out the other ! Any other ideas in case plan A and B dont work? I suppose I will just have to keep being persistent but its hard reversing the roles and being the "parent in law"! Something did come to mind though about not changing clothes, I read that doors can be a barrier for those with dementia, she was looking in one cupboard and said she could not find her cardigan, I opened the cupboard next to it and she was surprised that there were clothes in there. She has also started saying a few strange things but I guess this is just part and parcel of it all, the dogs were in with the OH and she came in looked at them and said I think the dogs are feeling lonely - the OH said "mum I am here with them" oh so you are and walked out again! Anyway like I said any ideas for Plan C let me know!