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I could have cried

Discussion in 'I have dementia' started by creativesarah, Feb 2, 2017.

  1. creativesarah

    creativesarah Registered User

    Today I met up with my friend Justin. He has early onset Alzheimers and has had it since his 30's. He is now in his early 40's. Today as we sat in the cafe he couldnt work out how to use his knife and fork and then couldn't do up his coat. He invited me back to his house but as soon as we were outside the cafe he asked me where we were going.I walked back to his house so he would get back there and when we got there he kept showing me little treasures. I have been having a bad couple of days myself, lost things, confused and feeling giddy. Poor Justin it is so tragic. I am plodding on with my writing.I am about to start a blog called 'Cooking by Kindle light' if I remember to do it
     
  2. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    52,640
    Dundee
    How terribly sad Sarah.


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  3. Slugsta

    Slugsta Registered User

    I am so sorry, that is very sad :(
     
  4. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    64,191
    Kent
    It`s very sad Sarah. There is no other word for it. Justin is lucky to have you for a friend, someone who really understands.
     
  5. creativesarah

    creativesarah Registered User

    I hope I can be a good friend to him. I am hoping we will get someone else involved so we can go out to more exciting places and I don't live in fear of losing him (esp if a loo break is needed by either of us) He can just turn around in Tesco and in that split second he feels lost. We shop together and go to charity shops he likes doing that. I am wondering if we can volunteer at a local building where the need volunteers ti help in the gardens, I will get him to stgart on our garden first as a trial run.
    I don't want to be his carer I just want to be a friend. People say he is always asking where I am
     
  6. joolzt

    joolzt Registered User

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    Edinburgh
  7. cragmaid

    cragmaid Registered User

    Oct 18, 2010
    8,014
    North East England
    Sarah.... once again I am filled with admiration for you.....but a trifle concerned too I would hate for your friend to become too dependant on you, to the exclusion of others, you need to look after you too.:D

    Good luck with the Cook Book.x.x.
     
  8. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
    3,866
    Female
    Scotland
    You are so impressive in the efforts you are making to deal with this illness yourself and in your friends. Getting the most out of life is not easy at the best of times so well done for going that extra mile.
     
  9. jan.s

    jan.s Registered User

    Sep 20, 2011
    7,546
    Sarah, you are a very good friend to Justin. It almost made me cry too.
     
  10. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    Me too, Jan. You are a lovely person Sarah xxx
     
  11. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    22,063
    Female
    Near Southampton
    How very sad to have this when so young. You are a lovely person Sarah and Justin is so fortunate to have you for a friend. Do look after yourself too. x
     
  12. HillyBilly

    HillyBilly Registered User

    Dec 21, 2015
    1,865
    Ireland
    "Cooking by Kindle Light" - fabulous! :)
     
  13. Samantha1977

    Samantha1977 Registered User

    Jan 16, 2017
    34
    I can not imagine how you feel. I just think you're incredibly strong and so is your friend. Both so fortunate to have each other as friends.
     
  14. danonwheels

    danonwheels Registered User

    You are a good friend.

    All the best.
     

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