I'm getting increasingly worried about my thoughts and feelings about my mum's dementia. I just can't deal with what us happening to her. I don't know how to.
She's 65 and lives alone and desperately wants to be able to live her life. I worry constantly about how she can live her life when it's blighted by confusion and forgetfullness.
Today I watched her and she just couldn't figure out how to open her handbag. Then she struggled to open her purse. She seems unsure about things like money and I know she's losing the concept of how things work. I try not to interject because this makes her think she's failing and also in my mind I want her to succeed so when I'm not with her I will know she can do it. I see people watching her and it hurts. I can't help it.
Simple tasks are getting harder and I can explain a thousand times but it won't make a difference. But I still do it because I want desperately for her to be capable.
She actually looked healthy today but I felt frazzled, on edge. Feeling sick watching her struggle. I feel sad and frustrated and annoyed at what is being taken from her. It makes me treat her differently and i hate that. These are my problems not hers.
I've read threads about people in awful predicaments and my mum puts her make up on and ventures out. I should be so grateful to have her like that but I can't move away from my sadness that this awful thing is gripping her.
It's destroying me and what terrifies me the most is that this is just the start. I want to hold her and beg her not to leave me. I'm so scared.
She's 65 and lives alone and desperately wants to be able to live her life. I worry constantly about how she can live her life when it's blighted by confusion and forgetfullness.
Today I watched her and she just couldn't figure out how to open her handbag. Then she struggled to open her purse. She seems unsure about things like money and I know she's losing the concept of how things work. I try not to interject because this makes her think she's failing and also in my mind I want her to succeed so when I'm not with her I will know she can do it. I see people watching her and it hurts. I can't help it.
Simple tasks are getting harder and I can explain a thousand times but it won't make a difference. But I still do it because I want desperately for her to be capable.
She actually looked healthy today but I felt frazzled, on edge. Feeling sick watching her struggle. I feel sad and frustrated and annoyed at what is being taken from her. It makes me treat her differently and i hate that. These are my problems not hers.
I've read threads about people in awful predicaments and my mum puts her make up on and ventures out. I should be so grateful to have her like that but I can't move away from my sadness that this awful thing is gripping her.
It's destroying me and what terrifies me the most is that this is just the start. I want to hold her and beg her not to leave me. I'm so scared.