He also explained that if I refused to have mum home again after the respite that the home wouldn't trust me anymore and that mum would be moved to a psychiatric unit of a local hospital because the respite bed would be needed for someone else.
I am in your situation also.
That does sound drastic; they can’t do that only if you let them.
Why should they do that? Only if they no vacancies in your area for an EMI care home, you’re Mother in a EMI unit so she must have been assessed for a EMI unit.
Just because you can’t cope does not mean that they can take away the empowerment of you having a say where she is place while they find another EMI unit if they is no vacancies in the respite she in
what you have to do is .
Phone social service tells them how you feel in not being able to take your mother back home. Then they have to find her another place.
Now I don’t know if you funded or self funded?
In my case I am not self funded. So social services had to apply for funding to a panel so my mother could go into a full time care home, So they have to do an assessment on my mother mental capacity
I could take the whole of my yearly entitlement of respite of 8 weeks while they do this , so they would of move my mother from the respite care home she was in , while they do the assessment in another care home that had a vacancies.
But I did not want this, I knew what care home I wanted my mother to go on full time, but could not get her in the till the funding was sorted out also the mental capacity
So I brought my mother home, While Social services do they assessment to get the funding
If your mother self funding & you’re not disputing who should pay for her care, you can go ahead find a place for your mother to be place in a permanent care home.
If like me you have Social services funding it, they want to keep your mother in the family home , rather than care home .they want to know who name the house / flat is that you both live in , is it a joint tenancy ?
They have to prove that your mother does not have the Mental Capacity to make diction (sp) on her own in what care home environment she wants to be care in.
When they done all the assessment on her mental health got the proof that she does not have the mental capacity to make dictions & have got the funding from the panel. Then you can choice the care home you want your mother to me in.
By that time you have no mental capacity left yourself ,because the stress of not coping only joking being
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Seeing that your mother is in a EMI unit for respite must mean that she been assessed for EMI care , so they no need for the Mental Capacity test
I see you’re in London. They quite a few Nursing (EMI ) home in London , so why not just ring social service tell them that you’re not coping & want your mother place in another nursing home for the duration of your entitlement of the yearly 8 week respite while they find a perment placement for your mother