Its been a little while since I’ve been on here and I thought I would post an update on my situation for those who responded to my earlier request for help (for which many thanks). My mum was in respite (early May) and I felt I couldn’t cope with her coming home, I put the wheels in motion for her to be placed into permanent care but after seeing how badly she was coping with being in the home I relented and brought her home early. Almost immediately I realised I had made a huge mistake. However, I carried on. My mum was admitted to hospital with a health-related problem a few days ago and the doctors have decided that she will be better off placed in a care home. The decision is based on her health needs as well as the dementia. It has also removed a lot of guilt that I was feeling about making the decision regards a care home and is a huge relief all round.