My mother died today she was 88 and suffered from Parkinson's and Lewy Body Dementia. Her death was strange. She was admitted to hospital with a suspected infection on Tuesday morning. Chest x ray fine so they assumed water infection - she was on a drip etc as he was dehydrated. She was not very responsive and was zonked out but she was often like that - the week before she had come off a butrans patch which didn't agree with her. Wednesday morning she ate a bowl of porridge. But would not eat anything for lunch or tea When I arrived at the hospital just after tea time, I fed her with her sandwiches. After she had finished eating her head slumped a bit more on her chest and then suddenly, her eyes which had been closed, sprung open wide and staring just like a dead person. I assumed she was dead but she still had a pulse. I went to get the nurse and I was amazed to find when I got back that her eyes were closed and she was chanting something I couldn't understand.
The nurse tried her on three different blood pressure machines and the end result was a reading of 55/45. (By the way when I arrived to visit, she was freezing cold and all the windows were open and she only had a sheet on her she said she was cold so I went and got three blankets). She was still freezing cold so I mentioned the open windows and the sheets but was ignored.
A doctor was called and said she was fine, pupils okay, heart and lung and oxygen levels all good. Blood pressure had come up to 92 which the doctor said might be because we were moving her so she would stethoscope on her chest. I asked if she had suffered a stroke but doctor said, highly unlikely.
This morning at about 8.15 the hospital phoned me to tell me she was dead. I asked the nurse what she had died of and was told she didn't know I would have to check on the death certificate. They had checked her earlier and she was fine - asleep and when they came back later to check her she was dead.
I am going to collect the certificate tomorrow and apparently they said that the doctor would be present so I could ask questions The nurse mentioned something about resuscitation - but I couldn't hear properly what she said but my mum did not have a DNR order. When I saw her lying on the bed she looked so beautiful, her skin was perfect she had no lines and she was so pretty but there was a big nasty bruise down the side of the neck - I want to know what that was.
Anyhow to end this, my heart is broken, I have looked after and fought on her behalf now for nearly seven years. I don't know how I can carry on now - I have friends but no family now and I am in my 60s. I know life does get better and I have to get the funeral out of the way but in the meantime.....how an I live? I have read some of the other posts which have made me cry as well.
The nurse tried her on three different blood pressure machines and the end result was a reading of 55/45. (By the way when I arrived to visit, she was freezing cold and all the windows were open and she only had a sheet on her she said she was cold so I went and got three blankets). She was still freezing cold so I mentioned the open windows and the sheets but was ignored.
A doctor was called and said she was fine, pupils okay, heart and lung and oxygen levels all good. Blood pressure had come up to 92 which the doctor said might be because we were moving her so she would stethoscope on her chest. I asked if she had suffered a stroke but doctor said, highly unlikely.
This morning at about 8.15 the hospital phoned me to tell me she was dead. I asked the nurse what she had died of and was told she didn't know I would have to check on the death certificate. They had checked her earlier and she was fine - asleep and when they came back later to check her she was dead.
I am going to collect the certificate tomorrow and apparently they said that the doctor would be present so I could ask questions The nurse mentioned something about resuscitation - but I couldn't hear properly what she said but my mum did not have a DNR order. When I saw her lying on the bed she looked so beautiful, her skin was perfect she had no lines and she was so pretty but there was a big nasty bruise down the side of the neck - I want to know what that was.
Anyhow to end this, my heart is broken, I have looked after and fought on her behalf now for nearly seven years. I don't know how I can carry on now - I have friends but no family now and I am in my 60s. I know life does get better and I have to get the funeral out of the way but in the meantime.....how an I live? I have read some of the other posts which have made me cry as well.