Hi all,
I hope everyone is finding a way to cope with caring for their loved one. This forum, even reading posts that are not similar to my experiences so far, are reassuring. The support from others is really touching.
My questions concerns the stages of dementia. I’ve posted a few times about my mums behaviour, but more specifically the negative feelings it is triggering in me. Today, due to the incessant scratching and moving and rubbing, I had to walk away out of fear of actually grabbing her and shouting WILL YOU SIT STILL!!!!!!!! I’m not proud of it. I know it’s not her fault, but we have to keep her occupied every minute or it all starts again. She has declined considerably over the last couple of months. She does not know know who we are, frequently asks to go back to ‘her’ house ( we’ve lived here for 30 years), she doesn’t know her way around the house, she doesn’t understand the tv etc. Now when we are out, she walks two steps behind, so I’m constantly looking backwards! If I slow down for her to catch up, she slows down too. :? She has absolutely no sense of danger. When crossing the road she walks well then does a weird step that puts her in danger! She can’t speak coherently most of the time. She has to have help showering and be given instructions to clean teeth etc.BUT, she is not incontinent
Does any of this behaviour ring any bells? Her day care centre said she is ‘a good bit on’ but others say she isn’t so bad!!
we don’t know !!
Sorry for rant.. I had intended to write two questions!
I hope everyone is finding a way to cope with caring for their loved one. This forum, even reading posts that are not similar to my experiences so far, are reassuring. The support from others is really touching.
My questions concerns the stages of dementia. I’ve posted a few times about my mums behaviour, but more specifically the negative feelings it is triggering in me. Today, due to the incessant scratching and moving and rubbing, I had to walk away out of fear of actually grabbing her and shouting WILL YOU SIT STILL!!!!!!!! I’m not proud of it. I know it’s not her fault, but we have to keep her occupied every minute or it all starts again. She has declined considerably over the last couple of months. She does not know know who we are, frequently asks to go back to ‘her’ house ( we’ve lived here for 30 years), she doesn’t know her way around the house, she doesn’t understand the tv etc. Now when we are out, she walks two steps behind, so I’m constantly looking backwards! If I slow down for her to catch up, she slows down too. :? She has absolutely no sense of danger. When crossing the road she walks well then does a weird step that puts her in danger! She can’t speak coherently most of the time. She has to have help showering and be given instructions to clean teeth etc.BUT, she is not incontinent
Does any of this behaviour ring any bells? Her day care centre said she is ‘a good bit on’ but others say she isn’t so bad!!
we don’t know !!
Sorry for rant.. I had intended to write two questions!