I had a call from DN four weeks ago to inform me my elderly mother had stomach cancer and needed help support, I live three hundred miles away from my mother who lives alone, I came quickly believing it was for a couple of months end of life support. I have been here three weeks now and she has no symptoms of stomach cancer but what has become quite evident she is suffering with dementia.
She has been verbally abusing me and accusing me of all sorts of things, constantly asking the time and day. She will ask me where I put something I hadn't touched and when I spend ages looking for it and give it to her she asks me 'why' are you giving me this, she then completely denies she was ever asking for it. She has problems walking and it quite clear she unable to look after herself, she asks me to go buy her sausage and corn beef and then asks why I buying her this rubbish, I go back and buy her steak as requested and then asks why I would buy her steak when it should be obvious she unable to eat it Nothing right!.....I have been here just over three weeks and asked for support but so far nothing. This morning she accused me of only being here for financial gain, I find that so offensive as I have asked her for nothing and used my own money. I am unable to have any kind of ration conversation with her and she now asking me to leave!!! I am at a loss as what to do, but to find this forum and able to write my thoughts down is the only support I can find as she has not been diagnosed with dementia but quite clear to me in the last three week she has a serious problem.
She has been verbally abusing me and accusing me of all sorts of things, constantly asking the time and day. She will ask me where I put something I hadn't touched and when I spend ages looking for it and give it to her she asks me 'why' are you giving me this, she then completely denies she was ever asking for it. She has problems walking and it quite clear she unable to look after herself, she asks me to go buy her sausage and corn beef and then asks why I buying her this rubbish, I go back and buy her steak as requested and then asks why I would buy her steak when it should be obvious she unable to eat it Nothing right!.....I have been here just over three weeks and asked for support but so far nothing. This morning she accused me of only being here for financial gain, I find that so offensive as I have asked her for nothing and used my own money. I am unable to have any kind of ration conversation with her and she now asking me to leave!!! I am at a loss as what to do, but to find this forum and able to write my thoughts down is the only support I can find as she has not been diagnosed with dementia but quite clear to me in the last three week she has a serious problem.