My darling mum who lives with my husband and I fell last week and broke her hip. She is now In Hospital but is not progressing well, she refuses to try to walk and gets agitated with the nurses and physios. As they want the bed They Are now discussing options for discharge, which are.
1. Step down in a care home for rehabilitation
2. Discharge to home to see if she will walk and go up the stairs !!!!
3. Permanent care home placement
Firstly option 1 is a non starter as the hospital told me today they won't take her because she gets agitated won't do anything they ask and keeps undressing herself
If she comes home and then can't walk/get up the stairs then what will happen !!!
I have always said to my darling mum that I will always care for her so option 3 is a particularly difficult thing for me to agree too
I adore my mum and haven't stopped crying since I got home from the hospital. When I left I said to her bye mum see you tomorrow I love you very much, and she said I love you very much too!. OMG that made me sob all the way home.
I just don't know what to do all I want is my mum home so I can care for her. Trouble is my house isn't that big downstairs I have one room lounge/dinner and kitchen, no downstairs toilet. If I bring her bed down and have a commode she will have no privacy and no washing facilities. Also as she gets really agitated through her dementia I don't know how she will react
Seems to me despite all this talk about helping dementia sufferers reality is a different kettle of fish
I can't desert my mum what can I do please help me
1. Step down in a care home for rehabilitation
2. Discharge to home to see if she will walk and go up the stairs !!!!
3. Permanent care home placement
Firstly option 1 is a non starter as the hospital told me today they won't take her because she gets agitated won't do anything they ask and keeps undressing herself
If she comes home and then can't walk/get up the stairs then what will happen !!!
I have always said to my darling mum that I will always care for her so option 3 is a particularly difficult thing for me to agree too
I adore my mum and haven't stopped crying since I got home from the hospital. When I left I said to her bye mum see you tomorrow I love you very much, and she said I love you very much too!. OMG that made me sob all the way home.
I just don't know what to do all I want is my mum home so I can care for her. Trouble is my house isn't that big downstairs I have one room lounge/dinner and kitchen, no downstairs toilet. If I bring her bed down and have a commode she will have no privacy and no washing facilities. Also as she gets really agitated through her dementia I don't know how she will react
Seems to me despite all this talk about helping dementia sufferers reality is a different kettle of fish
I can't desert my mum what can I do please help me